In-Laws Want to Take Child to First Major Sporting Event, But Mom Doesn't Want to Share the 'Sentimental' Moment

A first-time mom is worried her mother-in-law is stealing all her child's "firsts"
In a post published on Reddit, the woman writes that her mother-in-law keeps overstepping, and now she's planned an elaborate first birthday experience for the child
But the woman wants to celebrate the child's first birthday with just her and her husband, and is now asking the internet for helpA woman says her mother-in-law wants to take her son to his first big sporting event — but she wants to be the one to share the experience with the child.
In a Reddit post, the woman writes that she and her husband welcomed the boy in May 2024, and he's their first child.
"All of his 'firsts' have been sacred to me (ie zoo trip, aquarium visit, pic w/Santa, Easter basket etc)," she writes.
But her mother-in-law is constantly overstepping her boundaries, she adds.
The very first time the couple left the then four-week-old child with the woman for a lunch date, she invited a friend along without asking. She also "orchestrated her own 'baby's first Christmas' photoshoot. And yes, she posted those pics to social media."
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"Of course, no mention of this to me. I asked my husband to step in, he said he didn't see the big deal," she continues.
Now, the couple is about to celebrate the child's first birthday, and both her mother- and father-in-law want to treat them all to a major sporting event — "an all inclusive type of experience, very expensive, very generous. And I am grateful," she writes.
"However, I do not want to attend his first major event with anyone. Specifically because this is a sentimental event to me," she continues. "Growing up my family followed this team every summer, often turning our family vacations into opportunities to watch them play in different cities. I have made it clear that I am very excited to attend the game with my in-laws and am excited to celebrate his birthday with them. But for sentimental reasons I desperately want to attend his first game with just the 3 of us."
She continues: "I've tried to get my husband to understand my perspective, but he refuses. It honestly feels like my feelings, specifically as my son's mother, are being ignored and that hurts the most. Am I over reacting? Do I just go to the game and shut up? Or do I put up a fight to attend a game with just our family of 3 first?"
Other Reddit users say the woman might need to remove some of the pressures she's created around her child's "firsts."
"It sounds like you're trying to establish your own family separate from them. You feel encroached on regularly (even if it's well intentioned). What I hear is that being a mom is so important to you and you're worried that these special firsts will be taken from you," writes one.
The commenter adds: "But here is the secret: the most precious times don't happen on the first trip to the pumpkin patch or ball game. They happen in the everyday mundane. The quiet in the morning when he spots a bird for the first time in the backyard when you're letting the dog out, the way he looks when he first wakes up and smiles at you. These are the times that are actually the precious ones…and they are all yours."
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