Orzel, Stephen J. 1948-2025 St. Joseph, Mo.

Stephen Joseph Orzel, 77, of St. Joseph, passed away Friday, June 13, 2025. He was born Feb. 18, 1948, in St. Louis, Missouri, son of the late Frances and Harold Orzel.
He graduated from Lafayette High School, class of 1966, then joined the United States Navy, serving four years. He married Sandra Osborn on April 10, 1967.
Stephen retired from Burlington Northern Santa Fe Railroad after 40 years of service as an Engineer. He enjoyed running a train, flying simulators on the computer, and spending time with family.
Stephen was preceded in death by his parents.
Survivors include: wife, Sandra Orzel, of the home; daughters, Lisa (Kenneth) Wasson, Nevada, Missouri, Jennifer (Patrick) Mink, Ocala, Florida, and Kerry (Christopher) VanFosson, Falcon, Missouri; grandchildren, Ashley (Stephen), Trevor (Kat), Megan (Colton), Garrett, Christyan 'C.J.' (Heather), Kelsie (Nick) Devon, and Jackson; great-grandchildren, Everleigh, Elaya, Elsie, Karver and Gwyndolyn; and his sister, Rose (Bill) Ruckle, Prescott Valley, Arizona.
Per Stephen's wishes, there will be no services. He will be cremated under the care of the Rupp Funeral Home.
Online condolence and obituary at www.ruppfuneral.com. As published in the St. Joseph News-Press.

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