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Mom-to-Be Refuses to Agree to Husband's 'Unique' Baby Names from Favorite Fantasy Novel
A pregnant woman says she and her husband are at odds over what to name their baby
In a post shared to Reddit, the woman writes that the couple has been "discussing (arguing about) a name for the last 8 months"
The problem? She wants something classic, while her husband wants something "unique" from one of his favorite works of fictionA soon-to-be mom says she isn't interested in compromising on a baby name with her husband, who wants something "unique."
In a post shared to Reddit, the anonymous 31-year-old writes that she and her husband still don't know the sex of their baby, but have been "discussing (arguing about) a name for the last 8 months."
"Now I'm afraid there is going to be a tug of war at the hospital over the birth certificate," she writes. "Stylistically, we want very different things."
"I like 'classic' names," she explains. "To give a few examples for a boy's name: Martin, Silas, Calvin. My husband prefers more unique names — he suggested both Artemis and Entrari from his favorite work of fiction."
The woman writes that she is not interested in naming the child "after a fictional assassin and he doesn't want to name his child after 'an old man.'"
"Combining one 'old man' name with one 'unique name/fictional reference' seems to create a really weird-sounding combination and we are both arguing over the first name anyway," she continues.
While she would love for them to both be "happy with the child's name," her husband "hates every single name I suggest," and vice versa.
"I do feel as though I should have a little more influence over the name, if only because he automatically gets the child's last name, no questions asked," she continues.
After months of arguing, she presented her husband with a compromise, telling him "that the child could have whatever name he picked out, on the condition that they get my maiden last name."
However, he "refused," which she knew would happen.
"I don't actually expect them to have my last name. I was just trying to express that I understand how important the last name is and I would accept his first name suggestion if I had the privilege of automatically assuming the last name," she explains.
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Now, the mom-to-be says she is "getting less and less excited about the arrival of the child, because it is surrounded by disagreement after disagreement."
"I feel like I'm not getting to name the child something that means a lot to me, names that I have had in my notes app since I was in high school," she writes. "He said that he doesn't want to sigh (out of distaste) every time he has to call out this child's name."
Fellow Reddit users weighed in on the baby-naming debacle, with many siding with the poster, emphasizing that they are "naming a person, not forcing the world to play 'guess the reference' with his favorite literary properties."
One person suggested the couple each "create a list of baby names you think the other person would like."
"Emphasize that you get he likes unique names, but he needs to consider your tastes as well," the person explains. "See if you can come up with a list of 'cool names' that you think he would like that aren't distasteful to you, and ask that he do the same."
"Are there characters from books, comics, movies he likes that have more traditional names? Are there 'vintage' or 'classic' names that are more unique and don't sound so old-fashioned?" the commenter continued. "There is definitely room for compromise here if both of you agree that the other's opinions are important as well."
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