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News.com.au
12 hours ago
- News.com.au
Dating ‘apocalypse' is here due to AI technology
You match with someone on a dating app. Likes are liked, tame but sweet sallies shared, favourite TV shows compared. But singletons in 2025 now face a horrible question: Are they actually talking to an eligible charmer who has gone to the bother of two fingers tapping out a response – or are they one of the increasing number of people turning to ChatGPT to do their dating for them? Sigh. The rise of the machines really is here only the Terminator never had to worry about swiping right. ('7 foot, loves W40'.) Those looking for love – and seemingly especially men – are now outsourcing the boring, hard yards of finding love to the machines. AI has officially infiltrated and infected the dating world and some users are now spending up to $80 a month to have specifically created AI 'wingman' apps craft pick-up lines, messages and even break-up texts. Users are already warning that things are now 'cooked' and the romantic 'apocalypse' is here. Fun! ChatGPT alone can craft 'perfect' pick-up lines, provide real-time feedback based on screenshots of how a chat with a match is going, reckons it can help prevent a person getting ghosted, and it claims it can 'predict long-term compatibility (not just attraction)'. Sure thing, (digital) Jan. But wait, there's more. There are now custom GPTS products and apps like Charisma Coach, YourMoveAI, WingAI and Rizz, which can craft profiles and messages for you. Rizz says it has already created more than one hundred million chat replies. Where things get really wild is what AI can do if a user uploads a prospective date's profile. ChatGPT can tell you if they are telling porkies about their height, work out how much they earn based on the backgrounds of their photos, and supposedly alert you to any possible personality red flags in their profile. Go further still, and as the Financial Times revealed, its deep research tool can create an eight-page psychological profile of a match. Should, out of such fertile beginnings, great and last loving not bloom, never fear. There are now specially created AI products that will help end a relationship like Break Up Guide which will dumpers on how to do things with 'empathy and respect'. Don't think that all of this AI-ing is just happening on the outer edges of the dating world either. More than 18 months ago, already, nearly one in four Americans were already using AI to help with online dating, according to McAfee. Imagine how many are using it now. Writer Jess Thomson recently revealed she had 'seen hundreds of the same robotic prompt cluttering people's profiles', in a piece for The Times. Unfortunately, man of the one-liners that AI comes up with are truly atrocious. Examples include: 'If you had a third nipple, where would it be?', 'Hey, so I'm hosting this charity event next week for people who can't reach orgasm. If you can't c*m, please let me know', 'Excuse me, but I think you dropped something: my jaw', and 'Are you Schrödinger's cat? Because you've got me in a state of uncertainty'. Would it shock you to know then, that, according to Mashable, the majority of people using AI dating apps are, shocker, blokes, ranging from 66 per cent of Rizz users, to rises to 85 per cent to 99 per cent. (As one commenter on that article wrote, 'This is some ridiculous Cyrano de Bergerac nonsense'.) Women are not amused. Over on Reddit, the disillusionment, frustration and genuine heartbreak are already very real. 'I mostly see men doing it,' one user wrote. 'It's extremely obvious … Usually it makes the profile read like a resume. I feel like I'm on LinkedIn. And the AI pics are just sad and pathetic.' 'I want to date humans, not what a computer thinks a human should be.' Another wrote: 'We somehow found a way to make online dating even more alienating than it is already'. One male user posted about using ChatGPT for 'unbiased dating advise [sp]' and said it kept giving him answers that suggested he was 'stunningly emotionally mature'. Commenters responded with, 'Welcome to the Apocalypse' and 'I had no idea that society was this cooked'. Even those in relationships are being caught off guard by the spread of AI and its creating emotional havoc. One 33-year-old woman had 'loved [the] long loving texts' she had gotten from her 31-year-old boyfriend only to discover that he had actually asked ChatGPT to craft messages that 'required empathy, apology and understanding'. 'It makes them feel not genuine and just wrong,' she said. An 18-year-old girl recently posted she had 'always loved' the long paragraphs her boyfriend sent her – until she downloaded ChatGPT and asked it to create a 'paragraph for girlfriend'. Do I even need to tell you the punch line? The experience seemed to leave her confused and hurt. (Though anyone posting to a dating subreddit is hardly in a great place now are they?) Soon it might be impossible for those in the dating pool to avoid AI. All the major players – Tinder, Hinge, Bumble and Grindr – are getting in on the act too and are working on incorporating AI into their products to do things like come up with opening lines and giving users feedback on their flirting. In April, Tinder, in partnership with OpenAI, launched something called The Game Game which rates your chat-up skills. Depending on who you ask, AI in dating is either as a handy tool to help the emotionally obtuse or socially anxious or fundamentally dishonest and really just plain old lazy. It can also be both. Thomson, in the Times, wrote, 'When I receive these AI-generated messages, I feel catfished. They may look the way they claim — unless they used AI in their pictures too — but their personality is, in essence, a lie told via the filter of ChatGPT.' Things might already have gone too far. I was deep in the comments on Reddit when I am across this: 'Plot twist: its not a person using ChatGPT, you matched WITH ChatGPT. It's evolving, its dating …' I suppose even large language models must get lonely? Everyone deserves love - even The Terminator.
CTV News
a day ago
- CTV News
Calgary man charged with sexual assaults of women he met on dating apps
A police vehicle is shown at Calgary Police Service headquarters on April 9, 2020. THE CANADIAN PRESS/Jeff McIntosh A Calgary man has been charged with two counts of sexual assault in relation to incidents with two women he met on dating apps. In June 2023, a woman exchanged messages with the man using a dating app and, in September, met him for a date. After the date, the man invited her to his apartment. She agreed and they engaged in consensual activity and the woman stayed the night. In the morning, police say the man sexually assaulted her. She immediately left. She reported the incident to police in January. The second woman met the same man on a dating app in December 2024. Police say after going on a few dates, she agreed to meet him at his apartment for their next date. While she was there, they engaged in consensual activity, but then the man began to sexually assault the woman. She left and reported the incident to police in January. Following an investigation, Calgary resident Tuoyo Barnabas Sado, 36, was charged with two counts of sexual assault. He's scheduled to appear in court on July 22. Anyone with information is asked to contact police at 403-266-1234. Those wishing to remain anonymous can contact Crime Stoppers at 1-800-222-8477, online or by downloading the P3 Tips app.
Yahoo
2 days ago
- Lifestyle
- Yahoo
I hate online dating, but as a single woman living abroad, the pros outweigh the cons
Sinead Mulhern is a single woman living abroad in Ecuador. She has canceled dating apps from her phone several times. But has decided that the benefits of using dating apps while living abroad outweigh the negatives. Between applying layers of sunscreen during a day at the beach, I delete the dating apps from my phone. Good riddance, I think. But in a moment of boredom, a few weeks later, they're back. "Maybe this time…," I tell myself. By now, deleting dating apps feels about as monumental as taking out the trash. I can't even recall how many times I've removed Tinder and Bumble from my phone, telling myself I would be better off without them. I have a love-hate relationship with dating apps, and I'm sure anyone else who's single and swiping in 2025 can relate. On top of the chaos that already comes with decision fatigue and endless small talk, I live abroad, so cultural differences and the second-language barrier also come into play. And frankly, after living abroad alone for 7 years, I'm surprised I haven't developed carpal tunnel from all the swiping. Over the years, I've developed some grievances with the apps and dating culture in general. Recently, a friend and I recounted some absurd dating stories — memories we wish we could block out forever. There were the guys who had secret wives or girlfriends (a Tinder classic), the bad kissers, the guy who fell asleep while eating dinner, and the one who we discovered sold guns illegally (I wish I were joking). More recently, there was a seemingly pleasant man who took me out for dinner, messaged the following day, and then vanished into thin air. (Ghosting. Another Tinder classic.) These are just a handful of our Tinder tales — the hall of fame, so to speak. "The expectation-versus-reality of dating apps would be like if you went to a steakhouse but all they had was canned tuna," I said to my friend. We laughed ourselves into stitches. I've never been more grateful for female friendship. Laughter heals. Honestly? It is pretty funny. There can be a stigma around dating apps — something I've noticed more living in Ecuador than in Toronto, where I lived before. Anecdotally, North American women have a reputation here for being more forward or casual when it comes to dating, which can influence how we're perceived, fairly or not. Another stereotype is that these are "just hookup apps." Although I've found that dating apps are for whatever you're looking for, be it a relationship, new friends, or something in between, so long as you're clear. Besides, I've seen men creepily shoot their shot just about anywhere — the corner store, a taxi, my running route, bars where they work, hotel receptions, even grocery stores. If dating apps are a space for hookups, apparently so is everywhere else. At least apps come with filters and block buttons. Still, in 2025, these modern systems have their ups as well. I've met many great people through dating apps — some I remain in touch with. I've learned about places I'd love to go to one day from people from Spain, Argentina, and Venezuela. Not having expectations anymore means I'm open to the friendships, fun dates, and meaningful conversations that do come along. I've developed a deep appreciation for the good. For example, soon after arriving in Ecuador, I considered it a win to go on dates in Spanish, practice speaking, and learn about the culture. During that time, I went to a bar dedicated to a specific soccer team, took a motorcycle ride to the city's lookout point, found what became my beer spot, and tried a local dish, encebollado, for the first time. The first time I went out with someone in Spanish, I felt so proud to hold a conversation all night. Dating apps have played a significant role in speaking Spanish with fluidity. That's a tangible win. I notice the little things too — like how holding restaurant or car doors open for me is second nature to South American men, and how Sundays are reserved for family. Neither is standard back home, and these small gestures reveal something lovely about Ecuadorians. When I travel, exploring the mountains, cities, and coastline, I swipe through profiles to see if there's someone interesting to meet. I'm happy on my own, but meeting others can add to travel experiences. Read the original article on Business Insider
Yahoo
3 days ago
- General
- Yahoo
The shorter man's search for love: ‘One woman cried when I told her how tall I am'
Height is often seen as a dealbreaker when it comes to romance, particularly within heterosexual relationships. But when Tinder recently said that it was trialling a feature that allows some premium users to filter potential matches by height, it quickly proved controversial. 'Oh God. They added a height filter,' lamented one Reddit thread, while an X user claimed: 'It's over for short men.' 'I've experimented with not putting my height on my dating profile, or lying about it just to see, and the number of likes I get shoots up massively,' says Stuart, who is in his 50s and from the Midlands. 'I know I get screened out by the majority of women from the off.' At 5ft 7in (170cm), Stuart is just two inches below the UK and US male average height of 5ft 9in, but a height filter would probably prevent him from receiving as many matches. Since height is such a sticking point, it's no surprise that some apps, including Bumble and Hinge, already allow users to filter by this metric. A recent YouGov poll found that most Britons think being able to filter by height is acceptable; it was least popular with under-30s, of whom 36% were not in favour of height filters, compared with 26% of the wider public. (A common counter-argument is that, if users can filter by height, they should also be able to filter by weight – something that the same survey found 51% of men supported, compared with 36% of women.) Tinder has been quick to point out that height is a paid preference feature being trialled in select markets, not including the UK. It is also not a hard filter; profiles that don't match the selected height criteria will not be blocked outright. A spokesperson said: 'This is part of a broader effort to help people connect more intentionally on Tinder.' The app has gained a reputation for initiating hook-ups, rather than relationships. 'I've not used Tinder, but I have paid once to filter for height on Hinge,' says one Guardian reader who wishes to remain anonymous. 'I am a tall woman – 6ft without shoes – and dating is a challenge, because I am only attracted to men who are taller than me. This is not a question of vanity, or of wanting to be seen with a man who is more alpha or impressive … holding hands with and hugging a shorter man feels like I'm being affectionate with a child. It makes me feel enormous, even though I have a slim figure and am confident in my appearance.' Like many of those who cite height as a prerequisite, she has faced pressure from family and friends to loosen her requirements – someone shorter, they tell her, may be better able to meet her needs. 'But attraction is a need – and it seems it is only possible for me with men who are over 6ft.' Jo, 33, who is 5ft 10in and from Northern Ireland, is also 'most comfortable' with partners who are 6ft and above. 'While I've had a deeply meaningful relationship with someone shorter than me, I realised over time that I didn't enjoy the physical dynamic of feeling like I was towering over my partner,' she says. 'It affected how I felt in my own body, particularly around feeling 'large', which in turn affected my confidence.' In 2022, a former product manager at Bumble claimed that most women on the platform set a 6ft minimum for men – a statistic Bumble said was inaccurate – which would limit their dating pool to about 15% of the population. According to the dating app Badoo, the top keyword for men to get matches was '6ft' (perhaps surprisingly, for women, it was 'love'). Of course, as with much of the information provided in dating profiles, there is no guarantee the height given will be accurate. In 2010, OkCupid said its research showed that most men inflated their height by two inches. In 2019, Tinder made an April Fools' joke about the launch of a 'height verification' feature, to try to prevent such exaggerations. 'Height and strength are generally associated with dominance and power,' says Sandhya Bhattacharya, a relationship therapist. 'Having both predicates a greater disposition towards endurance and survival.' Research has confirmed the idea that taller men are seen as having an advantage when it comes to social status, access to resources and heritable fitness. In Bhattacharya's experience, this holds across most cultures, although genetic predisposition to attributes such as height and strength can vary globally. 'Unconsciously perhaps, we are re-enacting biological preferences.' Anna Machin, an anthropologist and the author of Why We Love: The Definitive Guide to Our Most Fundamental Need, agrees that the search for a taller man is partly down to an 'evolutionary drive'. But, she says, studies on non-western populations have found variable outcomes. Within the Tsimané people of the Bolivian Amazon, for example, 'while men prefer the male to be taller, the women are not bothered'. This implies that there is 'a major cultural element to our western preference for men to be taller', says Machin. In 2022, 'short king spring' trended on TikTok, although the moment was short-lived. While some Guardian readers apportion blame to 'TV, films and (especially) romantic novels' for the notion that a man must be tall to be attractive, a number of mixed-height celebrity relationships subvert preconceptions about height: Zendaya (5ft 10in) and Tom Holland (5 ft 8in); Sophie Dahl (about 6ft) and Jamie Cullum (reportedly 5ft 4in); and, until recently, Sophie Turner (5ft 9in) and Joe Jonas (5ft 7in), among others. Yet heightism remains so entrenched when it comes to dating that some men have taken to wearing heel lifts – shoe inserts that boost height by as much as six inches – or elevator shoes; Tom Cruise (reportedly 5ft 7in) and Ron DeSantis, who says he is 5ft 11in, are both thought to be fans. But while heterosexual women may place the greatest importance on their partner's height, filters could benefit men too. Research has shown that most men prefer to be a little taller than their female partners and that satisfaction with their partner's height can lead men to feel greater satisfaction with their own height – more so than with women. 'I've made peace with the fact that, statistically, I'm very unlikely to find someone shorter than me,' says Michael, 31, who is 5ft 2in and from Hampshire. He thinks it's reasonable for women to want to date someone taller, but believes that being able to filter by height when using a dating app is a bad idea. 'Even the most generous, inclusive person is unlikely to select the whole range that's offered, even if they don't care about it or would be willing to look past it for the right person,' he says. 'It excludes anyone at the extremes by default.' He has had mixed dating experiences in relation to his height. 'About half of the women either weren't bothered by it or were willing to look past it,' he says. 'Most of the other half ghosted me as soon as they learned about it. One woman, whom I'd gotten to know quite well, said my height was shocking when I told her on a phone call, then cried for half an hour. She turned out to be 5ft 8in.' Height may not play such a pivotal role in attraction when it comes to gay relationships. A 2014 study of queer men found that most preferred a partner slightly taller than themselves, although these preferences were modulated by sexual role. Elsewhere, other studies have found that, on average, gay men and women preferred partners with body heights that were equal to their own. 'For most of high school and college, I felt ugly and unwanted, in large part because of comments I heard from straight women about short men being undesirable,' says Charles, 26, who is 5ft 6in and from San Francisco, California. 'In my senior year of college, I came out as bisexual and started dating men. I was shocked by how attractive queer men found me. Even those who had a preference for height were generally less strict about it than the women I'd been around. So I date in queer spaces, where I feel more valued.' Height has become such a bone of contention on dating apps that some users have taken to addressing it outright. Taller-than-average women can often be found to quip that they are 'probably taller than you' within their profile bios, while so many men list their height followed by the phrase 'because apparently that matters' that it has become a cliche. Away from the apps, the 6ft fixation seems to be less of a hard‑and-fast boundary when meeting by chance. 'I've worked with couples where there is a significant height difference and it makes no difference to their physical, emotional or sexual compatibility,' says Bhattacharya. 'Ultimately, the couple 'fit' well because they choose to be respectful, engaged and invested in the relationship.' Machin says 'anything that focuses people down so closely on one attribute is detrimental'. A list of checkpoints, she says, is not the best way to choose a partner. 'Ultimately, in long-term relationships, it is who someone is at their core – their beliefs, values, personality, creativity, ambitions – that we fall in love with and is the best predictor of compatibility.' Jenny, 40, who is 5ft 10in and from Sacramento, California, believes that prioritising height is a 'remnant of caveman days when you had to rely on someone larger than yourself to protect you and your offspring'. Her husband, whom she met at work, is 5ft 7in – but height, she says, is just a number. 'I'd prefer someone shorter who protects me emotionally and provides psychological safety,' she says. 'I say kill your filters, online and in person – let life surprise you in the best way.' Some people featured in this article responded to a community callout. You can contribute to open callouts here
The Guardian
3 days ago
- General
- The Guardian
The shorter man's search for love: ‘One woman cried when I told her how tall I am'
Height is often seen as a dealbreaker when it comes to romance, particularly within heterosexual relationships. But when Tinder recently said that it was trialling a feature that allows some premium users to filter potential matches by height, it quickly proved controversial. 'Oh God. They added a height filter,' lamented one Reddit thread, while an X user claimed: 'It's over for short men.' 'I've experimented with not putting my height on my dating profile, or lying about it just to see, and the number of likes I get shoots up massively,' says Stuart, who is in his 50s and from the Midlands. 'I know I get screened out by the majority of women from the off.' At 5ft 7in (170cm), Stuart is just two inches below the UK and US male average height of 5ft 9in, but a height filter would probably prevent him from receiving as many matches. Since height is such a sticking point, it's no surprise that some apps, including Bumble and Hinge, already allow users to filter by this metric. A recent YouGov poll found that most Britons think being able to filter by height is acceptable; it was least popular with under-30s, of whom 36% were not in favour of height filters, compared with 26% of the wider public. (A common counter-argument is that, if users can filter by height, they should also be able to filter by weight – something that the same survey found 51% of men supported, compared with 36% of women.) Tinder has been quick to point out that height is a paid preference feature being trialled in select markets, not including the UK. It is also not a hard filter; profiles that don't match the selected height criteria will not be blocked outright. A spokesperson said: 'This is part of a broader effort to help people connect more intentionally on Tinder.' The app has gained a reputation for initiating hook-ups, rather than relationships. 'I've not used Tinder, but I have paid once to filter for height on Hinge,' says one Guardian reader who wishes to remain anonymous. 'I am a tall woman – 6ft without shoes – and dating is a challenge, because I am only attracted to men who are taller than me. This is not a question of vanity, or of wanting to be seen with a man who is more alpha or impressive … holding hands with and hugging a shorter man feels like I'm being affectionate with a child. It makes me feel enormous, even though I have a slim figure and am confident in my appearance.' Like many of those who cite height as a prerequisite, she has faced pressure from family and friends to loosen her requirements – someone shorter, they tell her, may be better able to meet her needs. 'But attraction is a need – and it seems it is only possible for me with men who are over 6ft.' Jo, 33, who is 5ft 10in and from Northern Ireland, is also 'most comfortable' with partners who are 6ft and above. 'While I've had a deeply meaningful relationship with someone shorter than me, I realised over time that I didn't enjoy the physical dynamic of feeling like I was towering over my partner,' she says. 'It affected how I felt in my own body, particularly around feeling 'large', which in turn affected my confidence.' In 2022, a former product manager at Bumble claimed that most women on the platform set a 6ft minimum for men – a statistic Bumble said was inaccurate – which would limit their dating pool to about 15% of the population. According to the dating app Badoo, the top keyword for men to get matches was '6ft' (perhaps surprisingly, for women, it was 'love'). Of course, as with much of the information provided in dating profiles, there is no guarantee the height given will be accurate. In 2010, OkCupid said its research showed that most men inflated their height by two inches. In 2019, Tinder made an April Fools' joke about the launch of a 'height verification' feature, to try to prevent such exaggerations. 'Height and strength are generally associated with dominance and power,' says Sandhya Bhattacharya, a relationship therapist. 'Having both predicates a greater disposition towards endurance and survival.' Research has confirmed the idea that taller men are seen as having an advantage when it comes to social status, access to resources and heritable fitness. In Bhattacharya's experience, this holds across most cultures, although genetic predisposition to attributes such as height and strength can vary globally. 'Unconsciously perhaps, we are re-enacting biological preferences.' Anna Machin, an anthropologist and the author of Why We Love: The Definitive Guide to Our Most Fundamental Need, agrees that the search for a taller man is partly down to an 'evolutionary drive'. But, she says, studies on non-western populations have found variable outcomes. Within the Tsimané people of the Bolivian Amazon, for example, 'while men prefer the male to be taller, the women are not bothered'. This implies that there is 'a major cultural element to our western preference for men to be taller', says Machin. In 2022, 'short king spring' trended on TikTok, although the moment was short-lived. While some Guardian readers apportion blame to 'TV, films and (especially) romantic novels' for the notion that a man must be tall to be attractive, a number of mixed-height celebrity relationships subvert preconceptions about height: Zendaya (5ft 10in) and Tom Holland (5 ft 8in); Sophie Dahl (about 6ft) and Jamie Cullum (reportedly 5ft 4in); and, until recently, Sophie Turner (5ft 9in) and Joe Jonas (5ft 7in), among others. Yet heightism remains so entrenched when it comes to dating that some men have taken to wearing heel lifts – shoe inserts that boost height by as much as six inches – or elevator shoes; Tom Cruise (reportedly 5ft 7in) and Ron DeSantis, who says he is 5ft 11in, are both thought to be fans. But while heterosexual women may place the greatest importance on their partner's height, filters could benefit men too. Research has shown that most men prefer to be a little taller than their female partners and that satisfaction with their partner's height can lead men to feel greater satisfaction with their own height – more so than with women. 'I've made peace with the fact that, statistically, I'm very unlikely to find someone shorter than me,' says Michael, 31, who is 5ft 2in and from Hampshire. He thinks it's reasonable for women to want to date someone taller, but believes that being able to filter by height when using a dating app is a bad idea. 'Even the most generous, inclusive person is unlikely to select the whole range that's offered, even if they don't care about it or would be willing to look past it for the right person,' he says. 'It excludes anyone at the extremes by default.' He has had mixed dating experiences in relation to his height. 'About half of the women either weren't bothered by it or were willing to look past it,' he says. 'Most of the other half ghosted me as soon as they learned about it. One woman, whom I'd gotten to know quite well, said my height was shocking when I told her on a phone call, then cried for half an hour. She turned out to be 5ft 8in.' Height may not play such a pivotal role in attraction when it comes to gay relationships. A 2014 study of queer men found that most preferred a partner slightly taller than themselves, although these preferences were modulated by sexual role. Elsewhere, other studies have found that, on average, gay men and women preferred partners with body heights that were equal to their own. 'For most of high school and college, I felt ugly and unwanted, in large part because of comments I heard from straight women about short men being undesirable,' says Charles, 26, who is 5ft 6in and from San Francisco, California. 'In my senior year of college, I came out as bisexual and started dating men. I was shocked by how attractive queer men found me. Even those who had a preference for height were generally less strict about it than the women I'd been around. So I date in queer spaces, where I feel more valued.' Height has become such a bone of contention on dating apps that some users have taken to addressing it outright. Taller-than-average women can often be found to quip that they are 'probably taller than you' within their profile bios, while so many men list their height followed by the phrase 'because apparently that matters' that it has become a cliche. Away from the apps, the 6ft fixation seems to be less of a hard‑and-fast boundary when meeting by chance. 'I've worked with couples where there is a significant height difference and it makes no difference to their physical, emotional or sexual compatibility,' says Bhattacharya. 'Ultimately, the couple 'fit' well because they choose to be respectful, engaged and invested in the relationship.' Machin says 'anything that focuses people down so closely on one attribute is detrimental'. A list of checkpoints, she says, is not the best way to choose a partner. 'Ultimately, in long-term relationships, it is who someone is at their core – their beliefs, values, personality, creativity, ambitions – that we fall in love with and is the best predictor of compatibility.' Jenny, 40, who is 5ft 10in and from Sacramento, California, believes that prioritising height is a 'remnant of caveman days when you had to rely on someone larger than yourself to protect you and your offspring'. Her husband, whom she met at work, is 5ft 7in – but height, she says, is just a number. 'I'd prefer someone shorter who protects me emotionally and provides psychological safety,' she says. 'I say kill your filters, online and in person – let life surprise you in the best way.' Some people featured in this article responded to a community callout. You can contribute to open callouts here
