I survived gang rape. I want to help our leaders imagine the ‘unimaginable'

Gang rape is a unique crime. It's uniquely terrifying to experience, yet our society and justice system often turn away from this life-threatening and psychologically damaging crime.
When I was a child – I had just turned 14 – I was gang-raped over several days by men and boys who were members of a notorious gang. This was 1993. Fast-forward 30 years, I'm a solicitor, I run my own legal practice. On Wednesday, my phone started running hot. Another gang rape reported. Colleagues and friends calling to see if I would speak out, express their outrage, and see if I was OK.
NSW Premier Chris Minns described the alleged gang rapes of the 17-year-old girl as an 'unimaginable ordeal'. The Sydney teenager who has reported the alleged crimes to police may not be able to speak to the media because of the upcoming trial. But I can. I can tell you what the experience of gang rape is like and how our justice system and society need to wrap around girls and women who experience this crime.
I am so grateful to be alive. I am so grateful this girl is alive.
Gang rape is uniquely dangerous for girls and women. There are so many of them, so many men and boys, it becomes a frenzy. Men and boys egging each other on. It is a unique crime, with unique drivers around masculinity and misogyny.
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At the time I was being gang-raped, my instinct to survive kicked in. I remember thinking about Anita Cobby. I just hoped they'd stop before the cricket bat leaning against the wall came into play. Now, I also think of Janine Balding, Lauren Barry and Nichole Collins, and Leigh Leigh (and the movie inspired by her case, Blackrock).
This crime escalates. It can often result in murder. Yet, the victim blaming is immense. Gang-rape victims commonly report that they/we were degraded during the attacks. Called names like 'slut', 'whore' and 'filthy'. For so many victims, particularly girls (children) for whom the rape represents their first 'sexual experience' (sic), these names stick. These labels become ingrained in a victim's identity. They can prevent girls and women from reporting to anyone, let alone to police.
And high-profile cases, in which police don't investigate, or believe the alleged perpetrators over the victim, deter other girls and women from coming forward.

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Gang rape is a unique crime. It's uniquely terrifying to experience, yet our society and justice system often turn away from this life-threatening and psychologically damaging crime. When I was a child – I had just turned 14 – I was gang-raped over several days by men and boys who were members of a notorious gang. This was 1993. Fast-forward 30 years, I'm a solicitor, I run my own legal practice. On Wednesday, my phone started running hot. Another gang rape reported. Colleagues and friends calling to see if I would speak out, express their outrage, and see if I was OK. NSW Premier Chris Minns described the alleged gang rapes of the 17-year-old girl as an 'unimaginable ordeal'. The Sydney teenager who has reported the alleged crimes to police may not be able to speak to the media because of the upcoming trial. But I can. I can tell you what the experience of gang rape is like and how our justice system and society need to wrap around girls and women who experience this crime. I am so grateful to be alive. I am so grateful this girl is alive. Gang rape is uniquely dangerous for girls and women. There are so many of them, so many men and boys, it becomes a frenzy. Men and boys egging each other on. It is a unique crime, with unique drivers around masculinity and misogyny. Loading At the time I was being gang-raped, my instinct to survive kicked in. I remember thinking about Anita Cobby. I just hoped they'd stop before the cricket bat leaning against the wall came into play. Now, I also think of Janine Balding, Lauren Barry and Nichole Collins, and Leigh Leigh (and the movie inspired by her case, Blackrock). This crime escalates. It can often result in murder. Yet, the victim blaming is immense. Gang-rape victims commonly report that they/we were degraded during the attacks. Called names like 'slut', 'whore' and 'filthy'. For so many victims, particularly girls (children) for whom the rape represents their first 'sexual experience' (sic), these names stick. These labels become ingrained in a victim's identity. They can prevent girls and women from reporting to anyone, let alone to police. And high-profile cases, in which police don't investigate, or believe the alleged perpetrators over the victim, deter other girls and women from coming forward.

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