When is it OK to cut off your parents and go 'no contact'?
Have you ever considered cutting a family member off? It's called going "no contact" and social media is filled with stories from people who've done just that. But how do you know you're making the right choice? And can fractured relationships be saved?
Guest: Bec Cushway, producer on Radio National's God Forbid program.
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If you want to find out more about what it means to go 'no contact' or 'low contact' with family, read this ABC article, or listen to the God Forbid episode exploring the ethics of it all.
If you're into complicated family dynamics, you might like our episode on why people are starting a family with sperm from a Facebook group.
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