Man Considers Cutting Ties with Sister After She Makes Shocking Phone Call to His Wife
A man asked the internet for advice on how to best handle his sister, who called his wife and asked her to divorce him
The man's sister said that she's against the marriage, 'because she cares about me and my marriage and my wife is not good for me"
The man then told his sister that if she doesn't agree to respect his wife, then she will be removed from their livesA man turned to the internet for advice after his sister tried to convince his wife to end their relationship.
In a Reddit post, the user explained that his older sister doesn't like his wife and "never did." He noted that his sibling "doesn't respect" their marriage, and either "ignores" his wife or "taunts" her when they are together.
While his wife has tried to "tolerate" the behavior, she recently confessed that the sister called her and "asked her to divorce" the poster because "she's not suitable" for him.
'I went to my sister and asked her why she would tell my wife to divorce me. I said that I understand she doesn't like my wife and it's okay she doesn't have to but asking her to divorce me is going too far,' the man wrote in the post.
'She says that my wife is controlling me and I have married her because of my insecurities and we aren't a good match when I told her that our families approved of our marriage," he added.
However, the sister insisted that she's only against the marriage 'because she cares."
The man then told his sibling that if she doesn't agree to be cordial or respect his wife, then she will not be part of their lives.
"I said that I love my wife and I trust her and I don't think that I can find a better woman for me," he explained.
His wife was also in agreement, as she "doesn't want to tolerate her anymore."
'My sister got emotional and she said that she is just trying to help me and I should listen to her and she is not my enemy and I'm her brother so she won't ruin me," the man reflected.
The man feels conflicted about removing his sister from his life completely, but also knows he has to stick up for his wife.
The people in the comments were on board with his decision to cut ties with his sister, but many questioned why he let her treat his wife poorly for so long.
'Is your sister married? Have you asked her why she is this way with your wife?" one user asked. "She needs to apologize to your wife and treat her with respect. If she refuses, yeah cut her off. If you feel like you don't want to give her the opportunity because it's not going to change, then also cut her off.'
'Divorcing your sister is the best option," another commenter wrote.
A third person agreed, 'She crossed a major line. You stood up for your marriage and set a boundary, nothing wrong with that. Love doesn't excuse disrespect.'
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