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Daily Mail
11 hours ago
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
Late Hairy Bikers star Dave Myers' widow reveals agonising guilt over his death in rare TV interview - and the harrowing ten-word question that still haunts her
Late Hairy Bikers star Dave Myers ' widow opened up about her agonising guilt over his death in rare TV interview on Friday's episode of Lorraine. Liliana Orzac, 57, appeared on the ITV show to chat to step-in host Ranvir Singh, 47, about her new book Dave and Me. TV legend Dave passed away in February 2024 aged 66, two years after his cancer diagnosis. Speaking about her loss, Liliana spoke about her grief and told Ranvir: 'It's an enormous thing to hear, that you have cancer, when you hear that, you don't fully understand the consequences of the treatment or the journey that is coming after that word. 'The stepson hospital corridors, the shattered dreams, the plans that you had for the future that are not going to be there anymore. 'The "What should I do? Should I do this? Should I do that"... 'And then afterwards, you're beating yourself up for thinking "I should have, I could have, I would have"...' 'The guilt the partner has left behind?,' Ranvir pointed out. 'And the guilt, the guilt you haven't done enough, and how could I let this happen in my care?' Liliana said of the questions that still haunt her. Dave shot to fame in 1980s and is best known for being one half of the Hairy Bikers, with his best pal chef Si King, 58. Over 20 years, the pair presented a number of TV shows including The Hairy Bikers Cookbook, Hairy Bikers' Best of British: Series Two and he Hairy Bikers Go West. The pair have also released a number of cookery books, as well as an autobiography. Dave and Liliana tied the knot in 2011 after meeting while filming Hairy Bikers. 'He loved life so much,' Liliana said of her husband. 'He was an inspiration for a lot of people. 'When I met him I was a little bit skeptical about things, I come from a different upbringing, I grew up with limitations imposed on us. 'I loved Dave's freedom of thinking, Dave's freedom of travel, Dave's freedom of expressing himself. 'Our first communication was through emails...' Ranvir pointed out that they met at a hotel during a shoot during the first series of Hairy Bikers. Liliana explained: 'A little hotel that I was managing. They stayed at the hotel and I helped them with locations in the area... 'I was really really fortunate to be in the position to help the, knowing the local area and the contacts, they needed to film something meaningful for the area and representative of the area. 'And we kept in touch by emails. 'He was sending me these beautiful emails from all over the world travelling in first and second series. 'I got these beautiful emails talking about Turkey and the spaces, India and the smells and the colorful India, the penguins of Patagonia, it was magic I read every time in his emails. 'He captured me with that for me it was a dream to travel, but for him it was a reality. 'I was seeing the world through his eyes. It was quite magical. 'Then we met, I met the kindness, the side of him, he was such a beautiful soul and so warm and caring, he was the first man to cook for me!' On February 29 2024 it was revealed that Dave had died as Si revealed. The chef announced he was receiving treatment for cancer in May 2022 and bravely kept the public up to date with his progress in a series of emotional TV specials He died on February 28 2024 with his family and friends by his side. In his heart-wrenching statement Si said: 'Hi everyone, I'm afraid I bear some sad news. 'Most of you will know Dave has been fighting cancer for the past couple of years. 'Last night, on 28th February 2024, with Lili, Dave's wife, his family, close friend David and myself by his side, he passed away peacefully at home. 'All who knew Dave are devastated at his passing. His beloved wife brought him such happiness as did her children, Iza and Sergiu who Dave loved like his own. 'Personally, I am not sure I can put into words on how I feel at the moment. 'My best friend is on a journey that for now, I can't follow. I will miss him every day and the bond and friendship we shared over half a lifetime. 'I wish you god's speed brother; you are and will remain a beacon in this world. See you on the other side. Love ya.' Lorraine airs weekdays from 9am on ITV1 and is available to stream on ITVX.
Yahoo
a day ago
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Scooter Braun Admits He Has 'a Lot of Guilt' After Working With 'So Many Young Artists'
Scooter Braun has opened up about the 'guilt' he's reeling from his long-standing career as a former artist manager. During a recent interview on The Diary of a CEO, the former music manager admitted he feels guilty because he previously worked with a lot of young up-and-coming artists who had to grapple 'being judged by the whole world at a very young age.' More from The Hollywood Reporter Kendrick Lamar Was the Top Winner at the 2025 BET Awards Tyler Perry Calls Out Hollywood Studios at BET Awards: "This Is Not the Time to Be Silent" SHINee's Key on K-pop Stardom After 30 and Reuniting with U.S. Fans 'At this age, I feel a lot of guilt because I worked with so many young artists,' he said. 'I hadn't taken the time to look at myself or do the therapy myself until I was older, so I didn't understand at 25, 27, 30 years old that they were coming from very unique backgrounds of their own stuff with their own families and their own childhood growing up this way and being seen by the whole world and being judged by the whole world at a very young age.' Most notably, he managed Ariana Grande and Justin Bieber during the rise of their careers. In 2008, he began working with Bieber when he was 13, and Grande in 2013 when she was roughly 20. Both artists parted ways with Braun in the early 2020s. Braun elaborated on the pressures of young stardom, noting that 'I think human beings are not made to be worshiped. I think we're made to serve, and I think that when we worship human beings, it changes something within us, it messes us up a little bit.' 'That's not what we're built for, and I think it can be very confusing,' Braun added. 'And I think being able to transcend the childhood of people cheering your name and everything else at that level and get to a place where the artists I've worked with are where they are in healthy relationships and with their families and still working through stuff but having a human experience, I think it's a testament to their strength and I think that's part of it.' The Hybe CEO also addressed his feud with Taylor Swift, which sparked after he acquired Big Machine Records and, with the acquisition, her catalog of master recordings in 2019. Braun said, 'When I bought Big Machine, I thought I was going to work with all the artists on Big Machine.' 'I thought it was going to be like an exciting thing. I knew that Taylor, she and I had only met three or four times, and one of the times it was years earlier and it was a really great engagement. She invited me to a private party and we respected each other. We had a great engagement in between that time,' he explained. 'Since I'd seen her last, I started managing Kanye West, I managed Justin Bieber, I knew she didn't get along with them. I had a feeling, this is where my arrogance came in, I had a feeling she probably didn't like me because I managed them, but I thought once this announcement happened, she would talk to me, see who I am and we would work together.' Braun recalled the moment he saw Swift's Tumblr post where she said learning he had control of her catalog was her 'worst case scenario' after 'incessant, manipulative bullying I've received at his hands for years.' 'I was just like shocked,' he said. 'It's been five, six years, I don't need to go back into it, but what I can tell you is everything in life is a gift, having that experience allows me to have empathy for the people I worked with who I would always say, 'Yeah, I understand,' but I never knew what it was like to be on the global stage like that. I never knew what criticism felt like.' His interview comes a few weeks after Swift bought back her catalog for her first six albums in a deal with Shamrock Capital. The original sale, which saw Scooter Braun's Ithaca Holdings buy Big Machine Label Group, took place in June 2019 and led the Grammy winner to re-record and release all but two of her initial six records. Best of The Hollywood Reporter Most Anticipated Concert Tours of 2025: Beyoncé, Billie Eilish, Kendrick Lamar & SZA, Sabrina Carpenter and More Hollywood's Most Notable Deaths of 2025 Hollywood's Highest-Profile Harris Endorsements: Taylor Swift, George Clooney, Bruce Springsteen and More
Times
2 days ago
- General
- Times
Air India crash survivor consumed by guilt over brother's death
The sole survivor of the Air India crash has spoken of how he is struggling to come to terms with his feelings of guilt after he missed the opportunity to move his brother into the plane seat next to him. Vishwash Kumar Ramesh, a 40-year-old businessman from Leicester, was returning to London on flight AI171 last week when it crashed into a medical college building shortly after taking off from the Ahmedabad airport in the western state of Gujarat. His brother, Ajay, was one of the 241 people on board the Boeing 787 Dreamliner plane who died in the disaster. Fifty-two British citizens were among those killed. Ramesh miraculously survived with relatively minor injuries after jumping out of an emergency exit next to his seat 11A. Speaking for the first time since the crash, Ramesh told The Sun: 'I tried to get two seats together but someone had already got one. Me and Ajay would have been sitting together. But I lost my brother in front of my eyes. So now I am constantly thinking 'Why can't I save my brother?'' Ramesh added: 'It's a miracle I survived. I am okay physically but I feel terrible that I could not save Ajay.' Overcome with emotion after the crash, he told friends: 'I wish I was not alive.' On Tuesday, Ramesh broke down in tears as he helped tocarry his brother's coffin only hours after he had been discharged from hospital. Recalling the final frantic moments on board the plane, Ramesh said: 'Everything happened in seconds. I realised we were going down.' The aircraft, Ramesh added, 'wasn't gaining altitude and was just gliding. After that, the plane seemed to speed up, before it suddenly slammed into a building and exploded. Everything was visible in front of my eyes when the crash happened. 'I too thought that I was about to die, but then I opened my eyes and realised that I was still alive.' Ramesh told the Hindustan Times that when the plane crashed, the section he was sitting in landed on the ground rather than hitting the roof of a building. Locals spotted Ramesh as he staggered out of the grounds of a medical college and they led him to an ambulance before he attempted to go back into the inferno searching for his brother. While in the hospital, Narendra Modi, the prime minister, visited Ramesh. The process of identifying victims through DNA and dental records is ongoing, with 202 victims identified to date. Air India said in a statement that it was working to repatriate the deceased to the UK and other parts of the world. Air accident investigators from the United States and the UK have been sent to take part in the crash investigation. The black boxes, the cockpit voice recorder and flight data recorder, have been recovered. An inspection of Air India's 787 fleet did not reveal any major issues and India's aviation safety watchdog has asked the airline for the training records of the pilots and the dispatchers.
Washington Post
6 days ago
- General
- Washington Post
This philosopher thinks we should embrace shame for the good of all
One difference between guilt and shame, French philosopher Frédéric Gros points out in his book 'A Philosophy of Shame: A Revolutionary Emotion,' lies in how we understand their opposites. The absence of guilt — that is, innocence — is generally regarded as a good thing, whereas shamelessness decidedly is not. Does that mean shame is more benign than it looks? Today, it tends to be judged harshly — a negative emotion imposed on us, for example, by a hypercritical parent or a repressive culture. But, Gros asks, what if our aversion to shame has deprived us of a valuable resource in antisocial times? An accessible and engaging introduction to philosophical conceptions of shame, Gros's book also — less successfully — advocates for a form of shame that can, as its subtitle suggests, drive political change.
The Independent
13-06-2025
- Entertainment
- The Independent
Sian Welby on the guilt of not seeing her dementia-stricken dad enough
Like a lot of people caught between a young family and elderly parents, Sian Welby feels guilty. The Capital radio and This Morning TV presenter adores being a mum to her baby daughter, but at the same time, her glittering career in London means she feels she doesn't see enough of her 85-year-old dad, who has dementia and lives hundreds of miles away from her. Welby's dad, Ian, lives with her mum Helen in a Nottinghamshire village, and was diagnosed with dementia around five years ago. He still recognises his family, and has good and bad days, and his daughter explains: 'On a good day, you probably wouldn't even know he had dementia, but on a bad day, and when you're living with it like my mum is, it's hard. It's hard on the families because it's Groundhog Day every day. Oh, it's a cruel disease.' As a result, Welby, 38, feels guilty about not seeing her mum and dad more. Agreeing it's stressful, Welby, whose daughter Ruby is nearly one, admits: 'You don't feel like you're giving anyone enough time. 'I'm living in London, my family are in the Midlands. I want to see my dad and my mum so much more than I do, but physically with my job and the schedule and the hecticness of my life, and on top of that having a baby, it's becoming really difficult to juggle. 'And with that comes so much guilt, because I just wish I lived around the corner and I could pop in every day. I really do wish I could. And sadly, for me to do the job I'm doing, I need to be in London. 'It's a catch 22, a really difficult position to be in, because you have to work on your career to support your future family. And yet by being down here, I'm not seeing my mum, my dad, my sister, my niece and nephew as much as I'd like to. So yeah, it's hard.' It's also hard to juggle her busy working life with looking after Ruby, although Welby's fiancé, Heart radio producer Jake Beckett, has used his paternity leave to look after the baby in the mornings when Welby is at work. 'Some days it works, and other days it doesn't,' she says. 'But in general, the balance is pretty nice – I don't feel like I'm missing out on Ruby. My other half's doing the mornings, and I'm seeing her in the afternoons, and I feel like I'm getting a lovely mix of work and life. It's just some days the work outweighs the life balance, and then that's hard. 'But honestly, I am absolutely loving being a mum, and yes, I'm exhausted, and at times frazzled, but I really, really love it.' She says it's frustrating that her mum and dad can't see Ruby more, and explains: 'I don't want them to miss out, so I'm FaceTiming them every evening during bath time, just to make sure Ruby knows who they are, and she's familiar with their faces. 'It's so important, and it's lovely, because she does have a connection with them, even if at the minute it's mainly over FaceTime. 'And they understand – they're very supportive. My family never make me feel guilty. It's just in my own head I wish I could do more.' But because of her busy working life and being a new mum, she simply can't do more, and she's facing the reality that her dad will probably have to go in a care home when his condition inevitably deteriorates and her mum can't cope with the physical strain of looking after him. 'It's sad,' she says, 'but I don't think it'd be fair on my mum as he deteriorates, which we know eventually he will. It's just too much on someone who isn't trained – my mum can't be lifting him out of bed, and all those kind of things that are going to come with it. I think eventually you need to get professionals.' So rather than turning a blind eye to what's likely to happen to her dad in the future, Welby has been to a care home herself to see what they're like, to mark Care Home Open Week (June 16-22), where care homes open their doors to highlight the positive aspects of care home living. Welby went to Wandsworth Common Care Home in London, and says: 'It was such a lovely place, and it really made me realise we ought to respect getting old a bit more and what our plans are. 'I think 'care home' has got some weird connotations to it – it's almost like a dirty word that all of us joke 'oh, don't put me in a home'. And yet some of these places are incredible, and they've got a really bad reputation. The one I went to was gorgeous, and the people were so nice, and I thought what a lovely way for these people to spend the last years of their life.' Welby watched an ABBA tribute band with residents, and joined in an art class with them, and thought the place was so wonderful that she's convinced the narrative about care homes needs to change. 'I think people are unnecessarily staying in their own home out of principle, because they think a care home is going to be horrible,' she says. 'A lot of these places are really sociable – they've just got a terrible reputation in this country, and this is why Care Home Open Week is good because you can go and see for yourself what they're like. I think people will be surprised.' And to families who might be struggling with the idea of putting their loved one in a home, she says: 'Don't be hard on yourself. There's a lot of guilt in thinking you can't do it all and you can't manage, and because of the negativity about putting people in a home, there's so much guilt about when you actually have to, and that's not fair. 'You've got to be realistic. It's coming from a place of love. If you're thinking about putting them in a care home, it's because you care about them and you want them to have a better life. I've seen first-hand how amazing they can be.' But of course, care homes can cost a lot of money, although Welby counters: 'If you've worked all your life and saved money, you're allowed to spend it on yourself, on making the last few years of your life really nice and comfortable – although I'm not saying it'd be easy or that everyone will have that kind of money.' But for families who are struggling to care for an elderly relative, she advises: 'If you're feeling the guilt and wishing you could do more, and you don't want to put them in a home or get carers in, don't be ashamed to get help. Because if you're in a better headspace, and if you're not exhausted, everyone will be better for it.'
