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Yahoo
20 hours ago
- Health
- Yahoo
Lifelong Friends Move in Together. But Then Pal's Disrespectful Behavior Threatens to End Friendship
Two lifelong friends moved in together, but it quickly turned disastrous One of the women often disregards her roommate's boundaries, causing tension between the two Now, they wonder if they can salvage their friendshipLiving with a friend can be challenging, especially when boundaries are crossed. A 25-year-old woman seeks support from the Reddit community after ongoing tensions with her best friend and housemate have made their living situation increasingly difficult. The two have been close for decades and were initially excited to live together. However, over time, their differing needs and disregard for each other's wishes have led to tension. Now, the poster has come to realize that their lifestyles have become incompatible. 'I have always known I am pretty introverted and came from not a great family home, so shared with her ahead of time that I will need alone time and there may be days when I'm just chilling solo in my room,' the woman writes in the since-deleted post. Her housemate, on the other hand, turned out to be far more extroverted than she had realized before moving in. This fundamental difference has contributed to growing friction, along with her friend's disregard for boundaries. The woman describes how, while she was out of town, her housemate damaged their shared car but failed to inform her. 'She had some kind of minor accident leaving noticeable scratches on my wing mirror and didn't tell me, leaving me to have to ask about them when I found them,' the woman writes. Beyond property concerns, her housemate often makes unsolicited comments about the poster's health, despite being asked to stop. This is particularly sensitive given the Redditor's history with Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS) and a past eating disorder. Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. 'She will often comment on my diet and make comments about my exercise even when I ask her not to as my health is a difficult journey for me and diet in particular triggers my past binge eating disorder from my crappy home life," she writes. Her housemate has also been allowing people, including strangers, to stay in their shared space without permission. When confronted about this, she failed to respect the woman's wishes for future instances. The final straw came when the woman walked into their living room and found her housemate and her boyfriend being intimate with the door open. 'I just think she should be more considerate and I don't think I want someone in my life who doesn't care about me or how their actions would make me feel,' she writes. Though they have discussed many of these issues after the fact, the woman notes that nothing has changed. Now, as she prepares to move out, she is left wondering whether their friendship can—or should— survive beyond their time as housemates. Read the original article on People
ABC News
26-05-2025
- Lifestyle
- ABC News
What happens when an introvert falls in love with an extrovert?
Author Jenny Valentish describes herself as an introvert and a reformed sociophobe. For most of her professional life, she resorted to Dutch courage before going to social events. So, how does she navigate life with a partner who says he's a "card-carrying extrovert"? In her new book, she offers advice for introverts and sociophobes. Guests:
Forbes
25-05-2025
- Business
- Forbes
8 Ways Introverts Can Win At Work When Surrounded By Extroverts
Did you know that as an introvert working with extroverts, you are perceived as less competent in your organization than the extraverts? Imagine you are leading a team in your organization, constantly having to prove you can do what you need to do, but your leadership assumes you can't because you are an introvert. When you think of social careers in sales, teaching, or healthcare, images of confident, charismatic people moving from one conversation to the next likely come to mind. Behind many successful professionals in these people-focused roles are introverts who thrive on deep thinking, solitary reflection, and meaningful one-on-one interactions without constant engagement. For introverts, the emotional labor of social roles can come at a cost. Meetings, small talk, presentations, and customer demands pull from the same energy reserve they need to focus and recharge. Without proactive self-care and boundaries, this mismatch can lead to exhaustion and, eventually, burnout. As an introvert who leads a team while working daily with customers supporting multiple contract deliverables, I have found the following strategies are key to many aspects of being an introvert. These include conserving my energy so that when I get home, I don't run straight to bed or constantly scroll on my phone. Being married to an extrovert requires using these strategies to support my home life and not just my work life. As an introvert, you are good at pushing through discomfort to meet professional expectations, but that doesn't mean it's sustainable. Chronic fatigue, irritability, mental fog, and loss of enthusiasm are early signs of burnout. How to: Audit your energy. At the end of each day, ask yourself: Which parts of today drained me? Which parts energized me? Track your answers for a week to identify consistent patterns. This self-awareness is the foundation of prevention. You may even consider taking a day of personal time off to recharge instead of just using the weekends. Unlike extroverts, who often gain energy through interaction, introverts recharge in solitude. How to: Build quiet time into your calendar before you need it. Treat 15–30 minutes of quiet time like an unmissable meeting. Take a walk while listening to music or a favorite movie. Eat lunch alone. These micro-moments reset your nervous system and preserve your clarity. Social roles often come with expectations for after-hours event participation. How to: Show up and stay as long as it is appropriate for you; however, for work-related events, such as those focused on business development, you may need to commit to being there the entire time. For other events outside of work requirements, say hello to the host, make it a point to talk to one or two people, and once you feel you need to leave, depart gracefully, saying goodbye and thank you to the host. No one is tracking your time. They will appreciate you making time for them. Time management works on the assumption that you can do more if you schedule more. For introverts, the key metric isn't hours but energy. Energy management is about matching tasks to your natural rhythm, but if you conserve your energy, you may be able to support more personal goals after you leave work, rather than feeling exhausted and going to bed early. How to: Schedule your most socially demanding tasks during peak energy times. For many introverts, this is mid-morning or early afternoon. Reserve late afternoon for solo work, writing, or thinking time. Don't schedule deep work after a string of meetings. One of the fastest paths to burnout is saying 'yes' to everything. Setting boundaries is incredibly challenging in collaborative roles where being helpful feels like part of the job. How to: To protect your time, say: 'I'd love to contribute, but I need to wrap up another priority first.' 'Can I respond tomorrow? I want to give this my full attention.' 'I have plans and cannot make it to your event.' The goal isn't to isolate yourself from your teammates or family. The goal is to protect your energy so you can show up thoroughly when it matters most. Being visible at work doesn't always mean being the loudest voice in the room. Introverts often shine in thoughtful, strategic, and one-on-one interactions. How to: Share your wins and ideas in writing. Use strategic visibility practices to demonstrate your value. Advocate for structured check-ins with your manager rather than relying solely on informal visibility. Like athletes need recovery days, introverts need a consistent end-of-day or end-of-week plan to recalibrate. Plan your way to recharge. Without these plans, stress accumulates. How to: Choose a ritual that signals to your mind that the social part of your day is over. It could be a walk, a shower, journaling, or changing into comfortable clothes. Repeat it consistently to build a habit your body will recognize. Or even consider taking a longer way home to have more time with your thoughts or to just decompress. If your current work environment constantly drains you, it might be time to explore a better environment rather than find a new role. Some companies are more accommodating of deep work and asynchronous collaboration than others. How to: Talk to your manager about flexibility, such as fewer meetings, more remote days, or asynchronous work options. When evaluating new roles, ask about communication norms and meeting culture. Introverts bring calm, focus, empathy, and thoughtfulness to their roles, which are vital in high-interaction careers, and your strength requires support. Self-care isn't selfish. It's a way for you to continue to be there for your people continuing to work in a world that doesn't always recognize introvert competencies while staying true to yourself.
