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Medscape
2 hours ago
- Health
- Medscape
How to Take Care of Your Patients so They Feel Cared About
Francis W. Peabody wrote, 'The secret of the care of the patient is in caring for the patient." What are the best ways we can take care of patients in a way that they feel cared about and valued? Be Curious Douglas S. Paauw, MD Make sure to listen intently when your patients are sharing their symptoms and concerns. Do not look at the computer when they are sharing sensitive information. Ask questions that show you really want to understand their concern. Ask how this symptom may be affecting their lives and what they are worried about. A curious line of questioning is helpful when you do not have a good explanation for the patient's symptoms. Because you asked in depth about the symptom and clearly show that you are considering what it could possibly mean, the patient will feel reassured despite the uncertainty. Be curious about who they are and what is important to them. Getting to know the person helps develop trust. Affirmation I think this is one of the most important things we can do to help patients feel cared about, to feel confident in the partnership you have with them to promote their health. Let patients know how happy you are with their progress toward goals. For example, when a patient has gone from the precontemplative phase to the contemplative phase of smoking cessation, it is great to affirm the work they have done and show the optimism you have that they will be able to quit smoking. When patients are trying to eat healthier, even when they are not succeeding all the time, point out some of the changes they share with you that are positive and encourage them to continue. I think it is also important to tell patients you are glad when they reach out to you to be evaluated about a new symptom or problem. Many patients think they are burdening us when they bring up a new problem; reassure them that we want to know when they have concerns. Patients often have their own opinions about what could be going on, and I like to congratulate them when they help me understand their symptoms and make a diagnosis. I also like to recognize and thank patients when they have read about their diseases and have developed a deeper understanding of the medical problems they have. Adaptability Be adaptable in the care plan you have for the patient: including ideas and thoughts the patient has is important in earning their trust. Include their ideas in the care plan even if it's not something you would do. I find this especially true in the realm of natural products. Patients often want to try a natural product for a symptom or clinical problem. My feeling is if there is no significant side effect or danger, letting the patient incorporate treatments that they want to try helps build trust in your relationship with them. It also opens up more possibilities if they do not improve; they usually will be more receptive to my recommendations. The same goes for starting prescription medications. Sometimes patients are not ready to start appropriate medication at a clinic visit. I encourage them to read about the medication and think about the advice that I have shared with them; hopefully, we will be able to start the treatment at their next visit. Building trust with your patient is essential. It allows you to be a more effective healthcare professional and saves time as well. When patients trust you, they are much more likely to follow and accept recommendations.
Geek Dad
2 days ago
- Entertainment
- Geek Dad
‘Kill Them With Kindness by Will Carver:' A Book Review
Earlier this year, I reviewed All Better Now, by Neal Shusterman. It's a book about a deadly pandemic that leaves survivors feeling more empathy towards one another. This review is for Will Carver's Kill Them With Kindness, a story that centers around a virus that leaves survivors feeling more empathy towards one another. Two books predicated on the same idea, but with wildly different outcomes. Regular readers of Will Carver's books may not be surprised to learn that this novel is an altogether darker affair. The novel opens with a deadly cloud of gas heading towards the shores of the UK. The gas has killed millions of people. It leaves nothing living in its path. The population has been given 'dignity pills.' Lethal doses that will give you a quick, painless end. Better than the flesh-stripping choking effects of the gas. After this short prelude, time rewinds. One year earlier, The British Prime Minister, who will go on to order the distribution of the dignity pills, is up to his elbows in something far from dignified. With a shadowy international cartel, he is organising a pandemic (One gets the sense that on this version of Earth, COVID-19, was never a thing – but I could be wrong about that). The hope is a pandemic will enable the cabal to instill fear, and by leveraging that fear, control the world's population. It's all about power and money. Reading between the lines, this created virus could have been COVID-19, but it never became a pandemic because… …A Japanese scientist in Wuxi, China, stumbles upon the plot, realizing he's been asked to create a vaccine for a virus with a planned release date. Rather than blowing the whistle, he sets about creating his own version of the virus. A less deadly strain, with a quirk. Dr Ikeda's virus will leave sufferers feeling kinder towards one another. There follows a string of unintended consequences, which will lead us back to the mass suicide of the whole of the United Kingdom and the rest of the world. The book is worth reading for the premise alone. Beyond that, you should read Kill Them With Kindness because it heads in directions that you never saw coming. I hesitate to recommend it as a holiday read. It's has some dark themes for a beach read. Nevertheless, it has all the hallmarks of a quality holiday thriller. Not one you'll leave in the apartment next to a battered Shopaholic by Sophie Kinsella. One you'll want to bring home, reread, and share with your friends. The book works on every level. It's a compelling techno-thriller, with a scary bio-weapon vibe. It's an excoriation of social-media culture and its use to manipulate millions of people. A polemic on the pitfalls of misinformation. It has a delicious and gossamer-thinly veiled parody of British Prime Minister Boris Johnson. To avoid spoilers, I can't say much more. This is a black comedy in the truest sense. It could surely make for an episode of Black Mirror. It's skewering of the mendaciousness and venality of sections of British politics *cough-Johnson-cough* is spot on. The passages later in the book, as we return to the impending cloud of death, are sobering and brought a tear to the eye. The world is a terrifying place right now for any parent, and Carver channels this to great effect in the tense final pages of Kill Them With Kindness. In amongst the gloom, there is hope. Carver recognizes the darkness of social media and news reporting but punctuates it with islands of hope and kindness. These parts make his novel all the greater. If you would like to pick up a copy of Kill Them With Kindness, you can do so here in the US and here, in the UK. (Affiliate Links) If you enjoyed this review, check out my other book reviews, here. I have reviewed one Will Carver book, previously – The Daves Next Door. I received a copy of this book in order to write this review. Liked it? Take a second to support GeekDad and GeekMom on Patreon!
Medscape
2 days ago
- Health
- Medscape
The Empathy Surgeons Often Forget at the Bedside
For patients and families, the need for urgent surgery — such as after a new cancer diagnosis or an unexpected postoperative complication like a perforated ulcer — often comes as a shock. Rather than delivering the news abruptly, clinicians should begin with a preparatory statement such as 'I have serious news' or 'Things have changed,' recommended Lauren J. Taylor, MD, and colleagues in a recent JAMA article. Addressing Emotions First The new information should then be presented clearly, under a simple heading — for example, 'You have a hole in your intestines. We usually treat this with surgery and several days in the hospital.' The authors advised against overwhelming patients and families with long technical explanations or exhaustive lists of potential complications, which often dominate informed consent discussions. This kind of news frequently provokes intense emotional responses, including fear, grief, or anger. In such moments, physicians should prioritize empathy over clinical detail. Simple acknowledgments like 'It must be hard to see your dad this sick' or 'I wish I had better news' can provide far more comfort than factual explanations alone. Scenario Planning Over Statistics In high-stress situations, many patients struggle to understand the likely course of illness. Even when complications and prognosis are clearly explained, patients often underestimate the risks or overestimate their chances of survival — especially in life-threatening conditions. In these cases, numerical statistics may fail as effective communication tools. Instead, Taylor and colleagues advocate for 'scenario planning,' a method adapted from business strategy. This approach involves presenting a spectrum of plausible outcomes: 'In the best-case scenario, we hope she'll recover after a short hospital stay and return home,' followed by, 'In the worst-case scenario, I'm concerned about serious complications or even that she may not survive this illness.' Stating Goals and Limitations of Surgery Consent conversations often focus heavily on surgical technique and potential complications, which can divert attention from what patients truly need to understand. There is also a risk of oversimplifying the procedure with phrases like 'We'll fix this,' which may create false reassurance. A more effective approach is to clearly articulate the goals of surgery — such as prolonging life, relieving symptoms, preserving function, or enabling a diagnosis — and to explain what the surgery cannot achieve. While technical risks like bleeding or infection are usually addressed, broader consequences, including pain, prolonged recovery, and the potential loss of independence, are often underdiscussed. It is also important to recognize that the patient's goals may differ from those of the surgical team. This is particularly relevant in cases such as cancer surgery, where a technically successful operation may not align with a patient's preferences — especially if extending life at all costs is not the patient's priority.
Daily Mail
2 days ago
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
TV star's extreme parenting move she's too scared to tell other mums, director's savage comment on nepo baby star, plus which politician is making an eye-watering £55k an HOUR exposed: RICHARD EDEN'S DIARY
On the hit BBC show Dragons' Den, her empathy while dealing with entrepreneurs has earned her a reputation as 'the nicest dragon'. But at her Teesside home, some things are non-negotiable for Sara Davies.
Forbes
2 days ago
- Entertainment
- Forbes
Artist Bobby Anspach Tried Saving The World Through Continuous Eye Contact
Bobby Anspach signature on one of his paintings installed at the Newport Art Museum. Bobby Anspach (1987–2022) wanted to save the world. Art was the best way he could think of to do it. Anspach believed he could create a singular sculpture that, once experienced, would transform even the most sadistic, selfish individual into an empathetic person who felt unity with all humanity and a responsibility to protect people and the planet. If he ever got it right. The evildoers were who Anspach most wanted to reach. His 2017 Master of Art thesis mentions Donald Trump and Elon Musk by name. 'Since Donald Trump was sworn into office this year (2017), it seems unlikely that human life is going to be able to exist on this planet in the way that we have known it, as the result of the climate alone,' Anspach wrote. 'My fear, however, is that once it starts to get so bad, people in power are going to make even more rash decisions than they already have.' Anspach knew the world was in grave peril then. He knew who was to blame. It is in even graver peril today because of the same villains who've continued acquiring more power and wealth and greater means and audacity to unleash it upon humanity. 'Right now, a very small percentage of people hold the power to destroy or save this planet,' Anspach said during his life. 'They are my target audience.' Anspach worked desperately on his mind-altering sculpture with the power to turn even the blackest of hearts. 'He made artwork like his life depended on it,' Anspach's graduate sculpture program professor at the Rhode Island School of Design, Taylor Baldwin, writes in an essay for 'Bobby Anspach: Everything is Change,' a survey of Anspach's life's work on view June 21 through September 28, 2025, at the Newport Art Museum in Newport, RI. Anspach, tragically, would not have long to commit to the pursuit. He died in a drowning accident at age 34. Highlighting the exhibition are two of his experimental sculptures, what Anspach called 'Places for Continuous Eye Contact,' room-filling, participatory installations representing as close as he came to his ultimate goal of designing a vessel that could save the world one person, or two people, at a time. He believed this could be achieved through the power of continuous eye contact. 'Eye contact has always been critical for Bobby,' the artist's father, Bob Anspach, told 'His eyes are amazing. People always comment about his eyes. One of the reasons they are amazing is because he actually looks at you. One makes oneself vulnerable when one looks at Bobby's eyes.' Bobby Anspach believed that vulnerability was the key to unlocking something. 'If we all allow ourselves a special type of freedom, of vulnerability and risk, of connection, that we–and maybe the world–could become forever changed,' Anspach writes. Freedom. Freedom was at the core of what Anspach believed could save the world. Freedom from the self. '(Bobby) believed that he had experienced a truth through deep meditation and far out thinking–like as far as you could get–and experiment with lots of different states of consciousness,' Baldwin said at a press preview for 'Everything is Change.' 'He understood something fundamental about consciousness and the lack of separation of self that would essentially convert anyone into a sense of obligation.' An obligation to save the world. To do good. 'Because he knew that truth, he wanted to make sure he could share it with as many people as possible,' Baldwin explained. 'He thought he had seen this truth that he needed to share, and there was a sense of urgency around, 'It shouldn't just be me. I need to spread this.'' What was 'the truth' according to Anspach? His master's thesis details it, in part: 'Every problem in the world stems from not seeing that everything is changing and from the deluded sense of a self that is created in the holding on to the changing world. It is what produces greed. It is what produces hatred. It is what produces the feelings of being separate from other people. Seeing that the world is changing and allowing it to be how it is does not make someone apathetic or unable to participate in the world. It leads to a deeper understanding of how things are and a better understanding of why others are suffering.' Resistance to change. Nostalgia. An imagined past 'greatness,' perhaps? 'Everything is Change.' Installation of recreated Bobby Anspach "Places for Continuous Eye Contact" sculpture at Newport Art Museum. Bobby Anspach was an addict; it runs in the family. He suffered from severe bouts of mental illness requiring hospitalization. It wasn't easy being Bobby Anspach. Or his parents. 'I have come to believe that those who are closest to the holy are also frequently closest to the demons; that was Bobby,' Bob Anspach said, paraphrasing a quote that has stayed with him. 'The demon part of him was he would hear voices.' Bobby Anspach experimented with hallucinogenic drugs. 'I took mushrooms with my little brother and I looked outside the window and it was the most beautiful thing I'd ever seen, more beautiful than Van Gogh, and it was inside my own brain,' Anspach states in a video playing at the Newport Art Museum as part of the presentation. That was the mind-altering, life-changing experience Bobby Anspach was trying to recreate in his sculptures, his 'Places for Continuous Eye Contact.' 'He was intent on creating something that people frequently refer to as a psychedelic experience without any (psychedelics), just by going into his machines for three-and-a-half minutes,' Bob Anspach said. Father and son would stay up talking long into the night about the sad condition of the world and the artist's dreams for correcting it. 'He was convinced that he could make sculptures that had the potential to deliver that experience to a viewer, and that they would leave with a sense of–fundamentally–wholeness with the rest of creation and that that would also generate in them a sense of responsibility towards the world, towards solving things like climate change and nuclear war,' Baldwin said. 'He was really a true believer that there was a profound, transcendental experience that can be had, that he had had, and he wanted to build a sculptural experience that could deliver that to any viewer and give them a profound sense of presentness and communion with other people, with the world around them.' Transcendence, the final goal of Buddhism, a state of being without suffering, desire, or the sense of self. 'In 2008, I got sober to save the world,' Anspach relates in the exhibition video. 'Soon after getting sober, I was introduced to meditation. Over the past couple of years, I have had the opportunity to experience the fullness of this human life during a number of long meditation retreats, sometimes lasting up to three months. When the mind settles, everything becomes clear.' Anspach was describing Buddhism. 'I want to create works of art that have the power to transform our awareness, to inspire humanity to do something about this world which is so desperately calling for a response,' Anspach continues in the video. Visitors can decide for themselves how close he got. Both of Anspach's 'Places Continuous Eye Contact' in Newport are meant to be used. His vision wasn't theoretical. He was actively pursuing the creation of his sculpture, his installation, what others have called a 'machine,' that could work on a neurological level to inspire people via continuous eye contact to save the world. He devoutly believed such a thing was possible. 'I've never worked with a student who was as clearly focused and driven as Bobby was,' Baldwin said. Baldwin and Anspach conversed almost weekly between 2015 and 2017 when Anspach was in the RISD sculpture program. 'When he came into the program, he told me straight up, 'I'm only trying to make one sculpture and once I make it perfectly, once it works, I won't need another sculpture.'' The 'Places for Continuous Eye Contact' installations at the Newport Art Museum are exact replicas of ones Anspach created, fortified for repeated use by the public and made more accessible and safer. Everyone is welcome to experience. One is designed for individual use, with participants laying down and staring up into their own eye via mirror. The other is for two people. Preferably strangers. Anspach thought the vulnerability of staring directly into the eyes of strangers led to a more powerful experience. For the two-person sculpture, both participants enter a pup tent sized dome, every surface of which is covered with multicolored cotton ball sized poms. The pair sit facing each other, nearly touching. The distance between their eyes is roughly three feet. Both participants wear eyepatches over their left eye. This is crucial. Anspach's most successful experiments with the transformative power of continuous eye contact revealed that by removing depth perception, by flattening space and the field of vision, a psychedelic experience could more closely be replicated. The 'Places for Continuous Eye Contact' were as much science experiment and invention as artwork. 'He was trying to get down to the exact refined pattern (of poms and lights) that would cause this (transcendent experience) to happen almost neurologically,' Baldwin explains. 'He was experimenting with repeating (pom) pattern, with different size poms, with uniform color, randomized color. He was trying every possible variation to see what would cause this.' In the two-person sculpture, the participating couple cover their heads with helmets, also covered with poms, and are then covered with a heavy bib, obscuring their clothes and shapes. The bib is also pom-covered. Anyone with claustrophobia may want to pass. Noise canceling headphones playing ambient music are worn throughout the three-minute experience during which multicolored lights playing in sequence create a fantastical ride. All while staring directly into the eye of the stranger sitting opposite. Without depth perception, with facial features and body outlines obscured, with the one available eye fixed straight ahead, the interior of the space appears to swirl and pulse. The poms become animated. There is no background or foreground. Museum docents lead participants into and out of the installations. Their role is critical. Anspach worked with a close friend, actor Carson Fox Harvey, on how best to guide the experience. If this were ever to become successful, Anspach wouldn't be able to lead every experience. Harvey trained Madison Velding-VanDam who trained staff at the Newport Art Museum on how to guide. Installation of recreated Bobby Anspach "Places for Continuous Eye Contact" sculpture at Newport Art Museum. Freedom. The truth. Transcendence. Saving the world. Bobby Anspach was an optimist. More optimistic in humanity's universal desire to want these things than in believing they were possible to achieve through continuous eye contact. Bobby Anspach was too good, too free, to understand not everyone in the world seeks freedom. Tens of millions desire control. To control and be controlled. To conform. The safety in control when those doing the controlling reflect those being controlled. He didn't believe man was irredeemable. The innate, uncorrectable wickedness of men. That evil–true evil–exists in the soul of men. Millions of them. Many occupying the 'very small percentage of people (who) hold the power to destroy or save this planet.' They are unreachable by art. Unreachable by logic. By morality. By humanity. By truth. They delight in the suffering of others. The 'self' is all they know, all they can understand. They can never be divorced from it. Their selfishness. Their ego. Narcists. Sociopaths. Bobby Anspach was too good a person to think this base depravity in other people couldn't be changed. He thought everyone could be reached if only he could reach them. Reach them through his art. He was wrong. Donald Trump and Elon Musk and their universe of sycophants who worship wickedness can't be changed by continues eye contact. Art bounces off them like a ball off a wall. Images of children blown to pieces in Gaza bounce off them. 'I (feel)… he got out–in his mind–just in time because what's happening with the world today is something he raved against, but he knew it was going to happen,' Bob Anspach said. Bobby Anspach made sure everything he said and did was kept for posterity. Because of that, a tremendous amount of his thinking, in his own voice, exists. The exhibition video shares only fractions. It does share him detailing a dream which eerily, meticulously, premonitions aspects of his death. 'He realizes in the dream he's going to die, but 'it's all ok,'' Bob Anspach explains, recalling the words of his son. 'At first it was horrible, but then it was all ok. It was all ok.' In the exhibition video, Bobby Anspach questions why he didn't write a detailed account of the dream, 'but I didn't, the next day I just wrote down three words twice: it's all ok, it's all ok.' It's not. But it is for Bobby. 'He was the best son,' Bobby Anspach's mother Jane Anspach told 'He was the best son; through all of this. He was an amazing kid who had an amazing brain and drove me crazy a lot, but it's the best ride he could give any two parents who have to go on in the world without the child, because it's so full of love, and him, and this passion, and this intensity. He was the greatest gift.' His gift to the rest of us was continuous eye contact, and no, it can't save the world. It can't. But maybe it can save yours. It's worth a try. Side of Bobby Anspach painting on view at Newport Art Museum reading, "It's Okay. It's Okay."
