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The Sun
16 hours ago
- General
- The Sun
I'm having a baby with new boyfriend – but he abandoned me then got woman I loathe pregnant
DEAR DEIDRE: DISCOVERING I was pregnant by my new boyfriend was a welcome surprise and I really embraced the idea of becoming a mum. However, he has really shown his true colours by abandoning me and also getting a woman I loathe pregnant at the same time. I'm 36 and have always longed for a baby. I previously tried for years with a previous partner and even went through IVF on my own, but fertility issues left me with little hope. So I was delighted to discover that I am expecting. My boyfriend is 39 and we'd only been seeing each other a short while, but it didn't take long before the excitement set in. And I really thought we had a future together. Then we had a huge blowout because he was being evasive about us moving in together, and I said he would need to share the load of having a newborn. He stormed out — no goodbye, no explanation, he just vanished, leaving me to face everything alone. I was heartbroken. Just as I was beginning to feel excited about the baby again, he got in touch and dropped a bombshell. He'd got another woman pregnant. She's someone I've never liked. We share mutual friends, and she's always been sly — copying me, making passive-aggressive digs, even trying it on with an ex of mine. We've had our fair share of drama and arguments over the years. Now I feel betrayed all over again. I know technically we weren't together, but he knew how I felt about her. He says he wants to be involved with our baby and step up. But how can I trust him, especially when he's having a child with her too? Dear Deidre: Spotting the signs your partner is cheating DEIDRE SAYS: This is a lot to process, especially after everything you've been through to become a mum. Your ex didn't cheat but it's the emotional betrayal and timing that's so painful. Unprotected sex with someone he knows you dislike, so soon after leaving you, feels like a slap in the face. Does having him involved feel supportive or stressful? You have every right to set boundaries that protect your peace and wellbeing. Co-parenting is possible without rekindling a relationship. Talking to a therapist can help you decide what's best for you. Tavistock Relationships ( 020 7380 1960) can help. GIRL MATE IS SINGLE AGAIN AND I WANT TO MAKE A MOVE DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER years of hiding my feelings, the girl I've always fancied is suddenly single – and now I'm wondering what I should do next. The last thing I want to do is overstep, but I'm terrified if I don't make a move I'll be stuck in the friendzone forever. I'm 27, she's 26, and we've always been close, but I never thought she saw me that way. She was with her boyfriend for a long time, so I kept my feelings to myself and stayed just friends. However, she's recently broken up with him, and I'm not sure what to do. I want to make my feelings known, but I'm worried she might just be looking for a rebound, and I don't want to be the one who gets hurt or used. At the same time, I don't want to wait too long and miss my chance. How do I tell her how I feel? I feel anxious even thinking about it. DEIDRE SAYS: It's normal to worry about being seen as a rebound, especially after someone has just left a long-term relationship. Take things slowly and be a supportive friend first. It's likely she'll probably need some time to heal. When the moment feels right, be honest about your feelings without putting pressure on her. While you can't guarantee that she will reciprocate, being genuine and patient gives you the best chance of building something meaningful. SCARED TO LEAVE ABUSIVE PARTNER DEAR DEIDRE: FOR years, I've been trapped in a toxic relationship with a man who controls every part of my life – emotionally, verbally and financially. Now I finally have the means to leave, I'm terrified. I'm 38, he's 42, we've been together over a decade and have two children. The last few years have been a living nightmare. He constantly puts me down, isolates me from friends, and lashes out in anger that sometimes get physical. I spend every day walking on eggshells, terrified of setting him off. I've wanted to leave so many times, but I've had no money, no support network. But recently, my grandmother passed away and left me an inheritance. It's not life-changing, but it's enough to get out. I feel paralysed by fear. What if I can't manage on my own? I want a better life for my children, but I don't know how to take that first step. Help. DEIDRE SAYS: You've shown incredible strength by surviving this long, and now you have a real chance to break free. It's normal to feel scared, but staying may cause more harm in the long run. Reach out to Women's Aid ( or call the National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247, who can help you plan your next steps safely. I'm sending you my pack, Abusive Partner?, which offers further support. PAL IN LOVE WITH A SEX OFFENDER DEAR DEIDRE: MY best friend has fallen head over heels for a convicted sex offender, and I'm terrified she's putting love before her child's safety. We are both 37 and have been friends since school. I've always known her to be a great mum to her ten-year-old daughter. But now I'm questioning her judgement. She met this man online about six months ago. Not long into dating, he told her he had a conviction for a sex offence that happened 'years ago'. He claims it was a misunderstanding and that he's a changed man. She believes him completely. Her family and I have tried to warn her to be careful, especially with her daughter at home, but she says we're being judgmental and that she knows him better than anyone. Now he's moved in with them, and I can't shake the feeling that something's not right. Should I leave her to trust her instincts, or is my sense of duty to protect that little girl the right path? I feel torn. What should I do? DEIDRE SAYS: You're right to trust your instincts – when it comes to a child's safety, it's always better to be cautious. It's deeply worrying that your friend is ignoring your concerns. While people can change, sex offences are serious and not to be dismissed. You need to have a very frank conversation with your friend. Explain, firmly but compassionately, that while you love and care for her, you're extremely worried about her daughter's well- being. Let her know this isn't about judging her relationship but about protecting a child. If, after that, she still refuses to listen, you may need to consider raising a safeguarding concern with your local children's services. I'm sending you my pack, Worried A Child's At Risk?, which has further advice and resources.
Yahoo
2 days ago
- Yahoo
Boyfriend Balks at Girlfriend's Request He Pay for Half of a New MacBook After Spilling a Drink and Ruining Hers
During a night of gaming and vodka, a man accidentally spills a shot on his girlfriend's MacBook Pro, causing irreparable damage She asks him to cover half the cost of a replacement after Apple says fixing it would cost $2,600 He refuses, arguing she was wrong to recycle the laptop and that splitting the cost is 'ridiculous'A woman seeks advice from Reddit after a night of gaming and vodka shots with her boyfriend ends in the accidental destruction of her beloved MacBook Pro. The couple, who have been together for over four years and have been living together for more than three, find themselves at odds over what counts as fair compensation after the mishap. She explains that she bought her MacBook Pro in 2020 while still in university, upgrading the processor to an i7 with the hope that 'this could potentially allow me to have this laptop for longer without replacing it.' After graduation, she uses the laptop less frequently but still values having it around for personal use. On a recent Friday night, her boyfriend asked to use her laptop to track his progress in a video game, saying it would be easier than using his phone. 'I said sure and he set it up on the coffee table in front of him,' she recalls in her post, setting the stage for what happens next. The couple was drinking together when her boyfriend poured vodka shots and placed his in front of the laptop. 'He went to go check something off the list on my laptop and he accidentally knocked the entire shot onto my laptop,' she writes, describing how they scrambled to dry it off with paper towels, but the liquid had already seeped inside. With the damage done, she decided to deal with the situation the next day. 'The next day, I (mind you he didn't come with me for any of this) drove to my nearest Best Buy (25 minutes away) to see if they could fix it,' she shares, adding that Best Buy referred her to an Apple Store nearly an hour further away. She left the laptop with Apple, which estimated repairs at nearly $1,000. She says her boyfriend "initially agreed to pay" for the repairs, but things took a turn when Apple later called to say the damage was more extensive than they thought. 'Apple calls me back and says the liquid ended up seeping through to the other side and the damage was pretty extensive ($2,600 to fix) and said it's not worth fixing,' she recalls, realizing that fixing the laptop would cost more than buying a new one. Her boyfriend, feeling guilty, tried to suggest salvaging parts from the ruined device. 'He was trying to suggest I bring the laptop back so he could try and salvage some parts from it to sell,' she writes, but she decided against it after Apple staff told her that the laptop is 'pretty much toasted' after sitting in liquid for days. She ultimately let Apple recycle the laptop, believing there was nothing left to save. When she brought up the subject of compensation, she tried to be fair, saying, 'I know my MacBook was almost 5 years old and not worth the $2,500 I initially paid, so I thought half (around $1,500 for a Pro) would be fair.' Her boyfriend disagreed, insisting that recycling the laptop was not logical and that he could have made some money back by selling parts. 'He said I wasn't being logical when I recycled the laptop and he could have salvaged it for parts to sell and make some money and paying me for half of a new MacBook is ridiculous,' she shares, expressing her frustration at his response. Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. She stands firm that it was her decision to make regarding the fate of her laptop. 'I told him it was my decision to make and I decided to recycle it which he thought I chose deliberately so he couldn't take it apart to make some money back,' she says, baffled by his reaction and choosing to walk away from the heated conversation. Now, she's turned to Reddit to ask if she is being unreasonable or if her boyfriend is simply being stubborn. 'Am I asking for too much or is my boyfriend just being annoying and stubborn?' she wonders, summing up the dilemma that has left the couple at odds. Read the original article on People
Yahoo
2 days ago
- Yahoo
Boyfriend Balks at Girlfriend's Request He Pay for Half of a New MacBook After Spilling a Drink and Ruining Hers
During a night of gaming and vodka, a man accidentally spills a shot on his girlfriend's MacBook Pro, causing irreparable damage She asks him to cover half the cost of a replacement after Apple says fixing it would cost $2,600 He refuses, arguing she was wrong to recycle the laptop and that splitting the cost is 'ridiculous'A woman seeks advice from Reddit after a night of gaming and vodka shots with her boyfriend ends in the accidental destruction of her beloved MacBook Pro. The couple, who have been together for over four years and have been living together for more than three, find themselves at odds over what counts as fair compensation after the mishap. She explains that she bought her MacBook Pro in 2020 while still in university, upgrading the processor to an i7 with the hope that 'this could potentially allow me to have this laptop for longer without replacing it.' After graduation, she uses the laptop less frequently but still values having it around for personal use. On a recent Friday night, her boyfriend asked to use her laptop to track his progress in a video game, saying it would be easier than using his phone. 'I said sure and he set it up on the coffee table in front of him,' she recalls in her post, setting the stage for what happens next. The couple was drinking together when her boyfriend poured vodka shots and placed his in front of the laptop. 'He went to go check something off the list on my laptop and he accidentally knocked the entire shot onto my laptop,' she writes, describing how they scrambled to dry it off with paper towels, but the liquid had already seeped inside. With the damage done, she decided to deal with the situation the next day. 'The next day, I (mind you he didn't come with me for any of this) drove to my nearest Best Buy (25 minutes away) to see if they could fix it,' she shares, adding that Best Buy referred her to an Apple Store nearly an hour further away. She left the laptop with Apple, which estimated repairs at nearly $1,000. She says her boyfriend "initially agreed to pay" for the repairs, but things took a turn when Apple later called to say the damage was more extensive than they thought. 'Apple calls me back and says the liquid ended up seeping through to the other side and the damage was pretty extensive ($2,600 to fix) and said it's not worth fixing,' she recalls, realizing that fixing the laptop would cost more than buying a new one. Her boyfriend, feeling guilty, tried to suggest salvaging parts from the ruined device. 'He was trying to suggest I bring the laptop back so he could try and salvage some parts from it to sell,' she writes, but she decided against it after Apple staff told her that the laptop is 'pretty much toasted' after sitting in liquid for days. She ultimately let Apple recycle the laptop, believing there was nothing left to save. When she brought up the subject of compensation, she tried to be fair, saying, 'I know my MacBook was almost 5 years old and not worth the $2,500 I initially paid, so I thought half (around $1,500 for a Pro) would be fair.' Her boyfriend disagreed, insisting that recycling the laptop was not logical and that he could have made some money back by selling parts. 'He said I wasn't being logical when I recycled the laptop and he could have salvaged it for parts to sell and make some money and paying me for half of a new MacBook is ridiculous,' she shares, expressing her frustration at his response. Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. She stands firm that it was her decision to make regarding the fate of her laptop. 'I told him it was my decision to make and I decided to recycle it which he thought I chose deliberately so he couldn't take it apart to make some money back,' she says, baffled by his reaction and choosing to walk away from the heated conversation. Now, she's turned to Reddit to ask if she is being unreasonable or if her boyfriend is simply being stubborn. 'Am I asking for too much or is my boyfriend just being annoying and stubborn?' she wonders, summing up the dilemma that has left the couple at odds. Read the original article on People
Washington Post
3 days ago
- General
- Washington Post
Carolyn Hax: Boyfriend slow to move his belongings to make room for partner's
Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: I'm moving into my boyfriend's house, and we're discussing which furniture to keep. His furniture is all secondhand, given to him when he bought the house and needed it in a pinch after his divorce. My furniture is new, and I put thought, time and money into it. I'd like to keep it.
Yahoo
5 days ago
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Woman Fears Her New Boyfriend Is Just Using Her ‘for Fun' — 'Something's Not Adding Up'
A woman fears that 'something's not adding up' about her new relationship Explaining the situation on Mumsnet, she said she sees her new boyfriend about three times a week, but she gets the feeling he's not serious about her Commenters encouraged the woman to have an honest conversation with the man about her expectationsA woman is worried that something is off about her current relationship — and she's asking others for advice. In a post titled 'Something's not adding up,' on the U.K.-based community site Mumsnet, the woman explained that she met her current boyfriend a little over a year ago, and that they were 'off and on' for nine months before becoming official. She admires his 'ambition and drive,' and they have mutual friends, 'literally no one has a bad word to say about him — only good things," she said. The original poster (OP), who explained that she has a child, went on to add that she and the boyfriend live in separate homes, and that he comes over about three evenings a week — one of which is a sleepover. 'We have fun. [We] go on holidays, [go to] bars — even trips out with my child together,' she said, before adding, 'But something in my gut tells me I'm just a bit of fun [to him] — I don't know what it is.' The majority of commenters advised the OP to sit down and have a candid conversation with her partner. The PEOPLE Puzzler crossword is here! How quickly can you solve it? Play now! 'What would an ideal timeline for this relationship look like for you?' one person asked, adding, 'What commitment do you want from a boyfriend of four months (even though you have been dating longer)? Maybe he still sees it as a new relationship (which it is). You need to talk expectations and see if they are compatible with his.' Someone else said, 'It's too early for him to move in with you (if this is that you have in mind). You have a child so you need to take things slowly and I suspect this is what he thinks, but talk to him.' Others encouraged the OP to slow down and to remember that she's only been official with this man for a few months. Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. 'It's a really new relationship. I'd probably reduce the amount of time he's at your place when your [child] is around. You don't want them getting attached to someone who hasn't yet committed,' a commenter said, adding, 'Just enjoy it for the casual relationship it is! There's nothing wrong with that!' Read the original article on People
