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Yahoo
3 hours ago
- Lifestyle
- Yahoo
This is how we do it: ‘I discovered my bisexuality when my husband and I started swinging'
I thought Simon might leave me if I said no to swinging. I agreed to it for him, for our relationship Simon and I met on a blind date when I was 19. I was immediately attracted to him – he looked like a tall Tom Cruise. In the years that followed, we got married, had kids. I was too busy being a mother to think about my needs, or his, which meant Simon stopped feeling wanted. I felt inadequate, like I couldn't give him what he needed. When I found flirtatious messages on his phone from another woman, it was a wake-up call. I felt hurt and betrayed, and trust was lost. Then one night in bed, Simon gently suggested swinging. I was resistant to it, but I thought Simon might leave me if I said no. I agreed to it for him, for our relationship. I never thought it would end up bringing so much value to my life. Simon signed us up to local swinging group's mailing list, but I thought it looked seedy, so he set up a profile for us on Swinging Heaven, a dating app for people in the lifestyle. A week later, we were in a pub interviewing a couple about everything from safety and consent to swinging resorts. Meeting these nice people helped quell my fears. Swinging has boosted my confidence – I used to feel insecure about my body, but now I feel empowered and sexy I've since discovered that I'm bisexual. When I kissed a woman for the first time, I thought: 'Wow, this is why men love kissing women; they're so soft and sensual.' Simon would have sex twice a day if he could, whereas I'd prefer to have it every seven to 10 days. We now have sex four to five times a week, which is more in line with Simon's libido than mine. This level of compromise partly comes from an old insecurity: that if he doesn't feel satisfied, he could cheat again. But swinging has given Simon the freedom he needs, so he's less likely to now. On a personal level, swinging has boosted my confidence – I used to feel insecure about my body, but now I feel empowered and sexy. It's also improved our relationship, forcing us to communicate and be more open with each other. I always say that as long as your relationship is strong, every couple should try swinging at least once. Mostly, it's a turn on to see my wife with other people. Having sex with other people has also transformed our sex life with each other Because I have a higher sex drive than Nicole, when our sex life waned after 29 years of marriage, I found it frustrating. So, 10 years ago, I began an affair with a colleague. Although we didn't have sex, we'd message and meet up in secret. It felt good to be desired. When Nicole found out, I ended it, but I realised I needed sexual freedom. I no longer wanted a monogamous life. Two years after the affair, I suggested to Nicole that we try swinging. She was initially sceptical, so we were cautious. We went for drinks with a couple experienced in the lifestyle and bombarded them with questions. We wanted to know everything. After an OK first experience with another couple in their hot tub, we had sex with that first couple. With them, we were in safe hands, and we've been friends ever since. The swinging lifestyle is more than just sex, it's friendship – we have 'besties with benefits' who we care deeply for The swinging lifestyle is more than just sex, it's friendship. We have 'besties with benefits', who we see every other week and care deeply for. I need to feel something for someone to have sex, but I'd struggle to be in love with someone else. There has been surprisingly little jealousy on both sides, especially when we know the people well. Mostly, it's a turn on to see my wife with other people. Having sex with other people has also transformed our sex life with each other, and made me desire my wife more. People comment on our physical connection, which is still strong after 34 years. But where before we'd go weeks without having sex, we now have it every other day. I feel most attracted to Nicole when she is radiant, happy and confident, surrounded by her friends, and getting attention from men and women who fancy her.
The Guardian
3 hours ago
- Lifestyle
- The Guardian
This is how we do it: ‘I discovered my bisexuality when my husband and I started swinging'
I thought Simon might leave me if I said no to swinging. I agreed to it for him, for our relationship Simon and I met on a blind date when I was 19. I was immediately attracted to him – he looked like a tall Tom Cruise. In the years that followed, we got married, had kids. I was too busy being a mother to think about my needs, or his, which meant Simon stopped feeling wanted. I felt inadequate, like I couldn't give him what he needed. When I found flirtatious messages on his phone from another woman, it was a wake-up call. I felt hurt and betrayed, and trust was lost. Then one night in bed, Simon gently suggested swinging. I was resistant to it, but I thought Simon might leave me if I said no. I agreed to it for him, for our relationship. I never thought it would end up bringing so much value to my life. Simon signed us up to local swinging group's mailing list, but I thought it looked seedy, so he set up a profile for us on Swinging Heaven, a dating app for people in the lifestyle. A week later, we were in a pub interviewing a couple about everything from safety and consent to swinging resorts. Meeting these nice people helped quell my fears. I've since discovered that I'm bisexual. When I kissed a woman for the first time, I thought: 'Wow, this is why men love kissing women; they're so soft and sensual.' Simon would have sex twice a day if he could, whereas I'd prefer to have it every seven to 10 days. We now have sex four to five times a week, which is more in line with Simon's libido than mine. This level of compromise partly comes from an old insecurity: that if he doesn't feel satisfied, he could cheat again. But swinging has given Simon the freedom he needs, so he's less likely to now. On a personal level, swinging has boosted my confidence – I used to feel insecure about my body, but now I feel empowered and sexy. It's also improved our relationship, forcing us to communicate and be more open with each other. I always say that as long as your relationship is strong, every couple should try swinging at least once. If you're keen to talk to us about your sex lives you can get in touch by filling in the form below. It is very important that both sexual partners are happy to participate. Mostly, it's a turn on to see my wife with other people. Having sex with other people has also transformed our sex life with each other Because I have a higher sex drive than Nicole, when our sex life waned after 29 years of marriage, I found it frustrating. So, 10 years ago, I began an affair with a colleague. Although we didn't have sex, we'd message and meet up in secret. It felt good to be desired. When Nicole found out, I ended it, but I realised I needed sexual freedom. I no longer wanted a monogamous life. Sign up to Inside Saturday The only way to get a look behind the scenes of the Saturday magazine. Sign up to get the inside story from our top writers as well as all the must-read articles and columns, delivered to your inbox every weekend. after newsletter promotion Two years after the affair, I suggested to Nicole that we try swinging. She was initially sceptical, so we were cautious. We went for drinks with a couple experienced in the lifestyle and bombarded them with questions. We wanted to know everything. After an OK first experience with another couple in their hot tub, we had sex with that first couple. With them, we were in safe hands, and we've been friends ever since. The swinging lifestyle is more than just sex, it's friendship. We have 'besties with benefits', who we see every other week and care deeply for. I need to feel something for someone to have sex, but I'd struggle to be in love with someone else. There has been surprisingly little jealousy on both sides, especially when we know the people well. Mostly, it's a turn on to see my wife with other people. Having sex with other people has also transformed our sex life with each other, and made me desire my wife more. People comment on our physical connection, which is still strong after 34 years. But where before we'd go weeks without having sex, we now have it every other day. I feel most attracted to Nicole when she is radiant, happy and confident, surrounded by her friends, and getting attention from men and women who fancy her.
Yahoo
16 hours ago
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
She Felt 'Deeply Alone' in Her Previous Marriage. Now She Shares Her Polyamorous Relationship Online (Exclusive)
Hayley Folk is in an ethical, non-monogamous relationship with her husband She makes videos and writes about her relationship and partners to raise awareness and fight stigmas Folk shares her relationship online in hopes to help others like her feel less aloneHayley Folk is very open about her relationship. Folk, 30, is a bisexual polyamorous woman who is in an ethical, non-monogamous relationship with her husband. Folk "spent the almost past 10 years coming to terms with being polyamorous, ethically non-monogamous, and finding relationships that suit me." Folk talks with PEOPLE exclusively about her lifestyle, why she shares her content and what she hopes people learn and take away from her videos and articles. In her first marriage, her husband opened their relationship because he believed it was what she wanted. "I was going in blind and had no clue what I was doing, but through two years of being in an open relationship and then an open marriage, when we got married, I realized I was polyamorous," she explains to PEOPLE. "The relationship ended for multiple reasons, one of them being that my ex-husband realized he was monogamous, and we realized we didn't [work] for each other. We got married young, and then I moved to New York." Once Folk moved to New York, she began dating and met her now-husband, Kyle, with whom she has been open since the beginning of their relationship. Then, Folk began writing professionally about her life online, and for her, it felt like a "therapeutic processing piece." This year, she started sharing videos about her polyamorous lifestyle online and grew her following, sharing an honest look at her life. She receives a lot of comments on her content, both positive and negative. Through her platform, she has built a community of people who discovered they are polyamorous and interested in ethical non-monogamy. Folk has been able to quell misconceptions about what polyamory and ethical non-monogamy look like, including the idea that "polyamory is a way to say out loud that you want to cheat, and that is not the case." "Ethical non-monogamy is an umbrella term, and being polyamorous is having the ability to love multiple people at once. Someone can be polyamorous and be in a closed relationship. The ability to be polyamorous and ethically non-monogamous is so that you can be honest about what you want." In making her content, Folk hopes that ethical non-monogamy can be normalized. "It doesn't have to be something that's taboo. It doesn't have to be something that's a conversation starter, something that everyone else can gawk at," she continues. "What I've come to find over time is that, like queerness, polyamory can be a normal thing. To embody this lifestyle, there is the ability also eventually to come to terms with it, and we're all living our lives in the way that we know how best [to]." Though it varies from relationship to relationship, Folk shares that she and her husband have rules for each other, and she acknowledges that "the rules do fluctuate over time." "We always check in with each other before and after dates with other people. Check-in can be done over text, FaceTime, or in person," she explains. "We like to take the time beforehand to set intentions and check in with each other, and that's something that we strictly abide by." Folk also explains that during these check-ins, they conduct a temperature check on the relationship to ensure they're spending enough time together. Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. One of Folk's most significant pieces of advice for those who have been in a monogamous relationship for a while and are looking to open up is to "take your time." "Slower is better. Maybe create a dating profile together and swipe through profiles together, imagining going on dates. Sit down and write out every possible scenario that you are afraid of happening, and talk about those things openly," she details. "Sometimes, people open up as a way to save their relationship or fulfill their partner's needs, but they don't discuss their fears. If you can access those conversations together before you do anything and continue to have those conversations, that's the healthiest way." She also recommends that couples consider investing in a couples therapist who specializes in and understands alternative relationship styles. "You need someone who can truly understand and is coming at it from a completely non-biased perspective." There are many things that Folk enjoys about her relationships, including "not having to hide anything about myself from my primary partner." "There is a level of freedom and transparency that happens when you can truly say anything, and you don't have to filter yourself," Folk shares. "I can be myself openly, honestly and authentically, including the connections I want with other people, and it's okay. It doesn't mean anything is wrong with our relationship or that it's bad." The hardest part about her relationship, Folk shares, is the "judgment from society." "I've developed a very thick skin over the years. I discuss this online for a reason, and some comments are quite harsh," Folk recalls. "I would be lying if I said it didn't affect me at all. I could see for other new [polyamorous] people; maybe that fear of judgment could be the worst part." "I want to help other people. When I opened my previous marriage, I felt so deeply alone. I was searching through Reddit and was following the advice of strangers. I was trying to find any resources," Folk shares. "People don't get it more often than not, so I want to make sure that one person can feel less alone. That's what matters to me. I want to help folks. If I can help at least one person through embarrassing, cringy or sometimes sentimental videos, then that's what I'll do." Read the original article on People
Daily Mail
14-06-2025
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
Woke LGBT publication sparks outrage after asking if Anne Frank 'was a lesbian or bisexual'
A progressive LGBTQ media outlet has sparked outrage on social media after speculating about the sexuality of Anne Frank. Pink News ran an article on the late Holocaust victim this week, writing, 'Was Anne Frank lesbian or bisexual? Her diary certainly proves she was attracted to girls.' While the Jewish teenager's diary does indeed indicate that she may have been attracted to boys and girls, some social media users were still outraged by the speculation. 'Shut the f**k up. It's no one's business and to speculate is more than morbid, and incredibly crass. WTF is wrong with you?' raged one. 'Can you please take this down? It is unnecessary and degrading,' wrote another. A third added, 'You are not, in any way, helping your cause with this. It's baffling to me.' However, some users felt that the article was valid considering how much Anne shared about her own sexuality in her widely published diary. 'Why is it normal to fill kids Disney movies with romantic plots and that's not seen as sexual but as soon as it's not a hetero love interest it's "sexual". God forbid you ever had a crush on someone as a kid,' asked one. 'Me and my friends were obsessed with Anne Frank's undiscussed bisexuality in middle school and whenever we did something covertly gay we called it Franking,' added another. In her diary, Anne hinted at potential romantic feelings for her best friend Jacqueline van Maarsen. However, she also had a crush on friend Peter van Pels. Anne Frank was a German-born Jewish girl known for keeping a diary documenting her life in hiding amid Nazi persecution during Hitler's occupation of the Netherlands. Anne, her older sister and parents lived in an apartment near Merwede square, after moving to the Dutch capital from Nazi Germany in 1938. The Frank family were forced to go into hiding four years later when the persecution of Jews escalated. Users on social media were divided, but many found the speculation offensive They lived in concealed rooms behind a bookcase in the building where Anne's father, Otto Frank, worked. The family were discovered by the Gestapo in 1944 and sent to concentration camps. Anne and her sister, Margot, were transferred from Auschwitz to Bergen-Belsen concentration camp, where they died. Otto was the only Holocaust survivor in the Frank family. In 1947, he published Anne's diary about their life in hiding, submitting to history arguably the most moving testament of World War II. It remains one of the most widely read books in the world, with more than 30 million people having read The Diary Of A Young Girl in 70 languages. Its author has become an icon of quiet defiance against the Nazis and a symbol of the indomitable human spirit. Anne Frank was a German-born Jewish girl known for keeping a diary documenting her life in hiding amid Nazi persecution during Hitler's occupation of the Netherlands In February, Anne's best friend Jacqueline Sanders-van Maarsen died aged 96. Jacqueline met Anne at school in Amsterdam in 1941, after the Nazi invasion of the Netherlands. Their friendship lasted for a full school year before Anne was forced into hiding with her family in July 1942. The pair always promised to write each other a farewell letter if they could no longer see each other. On September 25, 1942, Anne penned the promised letter in her diary, writing: 'I hope that until we see each other again, we will always remain "best" friends.' A statement from the Anne Frank Museum said: 'With great sorrow, we announce the passing of Jacqueline Sanders-van Maarsen on 13 February at the age of 96. 'Jacqueline was a classmate of Anne Frank at the Jewish Lyceum and shared her memories of their friendship throughout her life.'
ABC News
12-06-2025
- Entertainment
- ABC News
The Bisexual: Trailer
Skip to main content Go back to home page Home Live TV Shows Movies ABC News ABC Kids Categories Love, Sex & Dating LGBTQIA+ Relationships New Yorker Leila lives in London in a seemingly perfect relationship with girlfriend and business partner, Sadie. But Leila has a secret - she's bisexual. Realising that she's living a lie, Leila makes a drastic decision. Desiree Akhavan, Maxine Peake, Saskia Chana, Michelle Guillot, John Dagleish, Cassie Clare, Naomi Ackie, Eva Birthistle, Darren Hart, Niamh Algar, Caoilfhionn Dunne, Hannah Almond
