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Times
a day ago
- Health
- Times
‘Making the cake is an act of love for the sister I lost'
It began with a secret. Because that was what my sister had become. I was 14 when she died and she was 9. We were on a package holiday in Hammamet, Tunisia. She had gone to bed as normal, after a day of swimming in the pool, eating Nutella-filled pancakes and dancing to the Beatles with my dad at the hotel disco. She woke at 3am, spluttering and unable to breathe. She had contracted a rare airborne virus, we don't know where, that moved swiftly through her body and shut down her vital organs. She died in my father's arms while I stood in the corner of the hotel room, watching, incapable with fear. She was called Candy. She loved sweets, the colour pink and the film Dirty Dancing. I grew up and she did not. The experience had been so awful, of watching her die, of losing her, of the destructive repercussions for our family (addiction, affairs, bankruptcy, divorce), that I attempted to forget it all, to bury her memory along with her body. I did this so that I could go on, build a life. I did such a good job that by the time I reached my late thirties, with two young daughters of my own, a job, a husband, a mortgage, all the apparatus of a normal life, I had all but erased Candy. I had friends who did not know I'd ever had a sister, let alone that she had died. There were no photographs of her in our home. I could barely remember her, this little girl who I had grown up with in our mansion flat in Battersea, shared a bedroom with until I was 11. I certainly did not talk about Candy to my children, whose innocence I protected with zealous rigour. How could I explain it to them without terrifying them — that a child could die in the night with no apparent cause? To talk to them about Candy would be to introduce a grief into their happy, wholesome lives that I had been unable to accommodate in my own. Because I had not grieved. I had pretended nothing had happened and buried the pain. But it festered and refused to remain hidden. I began to feel jagged and disconnected, drinking too much, behaving erratically. I understood that in order to be a proper, functioning mother, wife, friend and daughter (my father died 15 years ago, 20 years after my sister) I needed to re-examine my childhood. I started long-overdue therapy and had treatments for trauma, including acupuncture and EMDR. I dug out old pictures of Candy, spoke to people who might remember her, looked at my diaries and wrote about my childhood, trying to locate her in my frozen memory, rebuilding her from fragments. I spent nearly a year doing this before I felt able to talk to my children about my sister. By this time the girls were four and six — sunny, busy, bold, wild, creative little people. I didn't want to talk to them about death, I didn't want them to think about Candy being afraid. I wanted to talk about life and joy and fun. I wanted to create memories for them based around the aunt they would never meet. So, as the anniversary of Candy's birthday approached in early July, I told the girls that we were going to make a cake. 'It's to celebrate my sister's birthday,' I said. 'She died when she was nine, very suddenly, very sadly. When she was alive she was a bit crazy and she really loved sweets — pink ones the most. So we are going to make a crazy pink birthday cake.' • Deepak Chopra: My advice for coping with grief My daughters looked solemn as I explained this, but their expressions shifted as I continued. 'First we have to go to the supermarket and you must choose any sweets you want, as many as you like, and we are going to use those to decorate the cake.' This was an opportunity like no other. Usually I was quite strict about sugar, but here was ultimate licence. They hurtled around the supermarket, laughing, excited, gathering packets of jelly beans, chocolate buttons, sprinkles, glancing up occasionally to make sure I wasn't about to change my mind, tell them to put it all back. The shopping basket was heavy with swag, but they kept filling it, Smarties, mini marshmallows, sparkly silver balls. Back at home I made the sponges — three tiers, this cake was going to be huge. I made pink icing, a whole mixing bowl of it, with extra pink food colouring for a vivid shade. I iced the cake for the girls — a precarious business, but really I was just slapping the stuff on. We were not looking for anything chic, we were looking for a cake of cartoonish lunacy. Then it was their turn. 'Be wild,' I said. They began chucking sweets at the thing, piling on the layers until the icing began to sag with the weight of its bounty, the whole edifice studded and sprinkled and starred and ridiculous. By this point my mother had arrived — her birthday is the week before Candy's, an event that, ever since her daughter's death, had been tinged with an inescapable sadness. But this cake was too ridiculous for anyone to feel sad. Once the cake could take no more, I cut slices. This was no easy task, what with all the draped fizzy strawberry laces, but somehow I managed it. We ate the cake and of course it was delicious. 'Candy would have loved this,' Mum said. And suddenly she was in the room with us, the memory of her at least, capering in her pink leotard, convinced she could manage another slice. We first made the Candy Cake in 2016 and we have made it every year since. When I first had the idea I didn't conceive of it as an annual event, but it has had its own momentum. There have been some alterations — I once tried different-coloured sponge tiers, which was not a huge success. There was the year we covered it with googly eyes, which made it quite surreal. Another year we went big on unicorns and rainbows. When my older daughter became a vegetarian we had to lose all the gelatine-based sweets. My mother is in a nursing home now, with limited mobility, so instead of eating the cake in the back garden in the sunshine, as we would normally have done, we take it to her and eat it together in her room, pictures of Candy all around us. And as my girls have grown and their personalities have developed, they have decided they want different things from the Candy Cake, so last year they made two. There was still the madcap plundering of the sweet aisle, still the pink icing, still the OTT aesthetic, just doubled. • When grief turns to madness — and medicine makes it worse The Candy Cake has become our self-created tradition. We can never eat it in one go, so we put it in a tin and lug it around with us, giving friends and family a piece when we visit, spreading the Candy madness, each mouthful conjuring her personality. My daughters look forward to it and plan for it. They cannot remember a time before the Candy Cake — it is baked into them now, and even though they know it is a sad thing, it is also a joyful time, a task we do together like decorating the tree at Christmas. It has facilitated conversations about Candy, brought her into our lives in a tangible way — taste, smell, memory. It makes me feel like I am honouring her, remembering her, cherishing her. Making the cake is an act of love for the sister I lost, and on a sunny summer's day, with the sound of giggles and tinkling sprinkles, the taste of pink icing on my tongue, I feel like I have found her again. This year, though, I tinkered with tradition. I turned 50 in May, and for my birthday party the girls and I made a classic Candy Cake: big and pink and wild. My friends gathered in the garden — friends made in secondary school, university, at work, all the things Candy never got to experience. This time the cake was all gone in one night, the icing scraped from the plate. And this time I made it for both of us, Candy and me. We live on behalf of the ones we have lost, so I feel like I have to embrace every day, every celebration 200 per cent, because I am doing it not just for me, but for her too. I grow old and she does not, but I bring her with me. The Consequences of Love by Gavanndra Hodge (Penguin £10.99 pp336). To order a copy go to Free UK standard P&P on orders over £25. Special discount available for Times+ members Share your own parenting experiences or send a question to one our experts by emailing parenting@
Wales Online
6 days ago
- Entertainment
- Wales Online
Pop star Robbie Williams named as new Fifa Music Ambassador
Pop star Robbie Williams named as new Fifa Music Ambassador The singer, best known for songs such as Rock DJ, Angels and Candy, has been appointed to the role to "deepen fan connection" and "elevate" the emotion of the game by bringing music and football together on the world stage. Robbie Williams after Soccer Aid for UNICEF 2025 at Old Trafford, Manchester (Image: PA ) Pop star Robbie Williams has been named as the new Fifa Music Ambassador and has co-written the first official anthem of the international football governing body. The singer, best known for songs such as Rock DJ, Angels and Candy, has been appointed to the role to "deepen fan connection" and "elevate" the emotion of the game by bringing music and football together on the world stage. He has co-written a new song, Desire, which will be played before Fifa tournaments and matches worldwide to accompany players as they walk on to the pitch. The song will debut at the Club World Cup's opening match being held in Miami on Saturday, before being used in all upcoming tournaments including the 2026 World Cup. Williams said: "Music and football bring people together like nothing else - each with their own universal language of connection, emotion, spirit and community. "When those worlds come together, there's nothing like it - and I'm beyond honoured to be the Fifa Music Ambassador. Article continues below "Football and music have both been part of my life for as long as I can remember, so this means a lot to me on a personal level. Williams provided the theme song for the Fifa 2000 video game, It's Only Us, on the condition that his favourite team Port Vale were included in the game. The new anthem, which was co-written with Karl Brazil, Owen Parker and Erik Jan Grob, features the Italian singer Laura Pausini. The track will be accompanied by a new video which will be shown for the first time at Miami's Hard Rock Stadium. Williams added: "I've grown up watching the walk-outs, the anthems, the drama – so writing and recording the official Fifa anthem is a real privilege. "I wanted to create something that captures all of it - the passion, the nerves, the pride and the majesty of that feeling just before kick-off. "Football and music have always meant the world to me, and bringing them together on this kind of stage gives me goosebumps. "I know I'll get to perform this song at some of my favourite tournaments in the coming years, which fills me with excitement. It's a real honour that Laura Pausini accepted my invitation to feature on the song – she's an incredible artist with the perfect voice." Pausini, 51, rose to fame after winning the 1993 newcomer artists' section of the Sanremo Music Festival, one of the biggest and longest running song contests in Italy, with her song, La Solitudine. The singer, who has released Italian and Spanish albums, won a Grammy in 2006 for Best Latin Pop Album and was also nominated for an Oscar in 2020 for best original song with Io si/Seen. She added: "The song is amazing, really touching. It's a dream to be with him for the Fifa Club World Cup. Since I was a little girl growing up in Italy I remember the thrill and passion for football in my home country. "To be able to perform live with Robbie Williams in front of passionate football fans and to be heard by music fans around the world will be truly amazing." Article continues below It comes as Williams completes the UK leg of his tour which will then continue with concerts in Ireland, Spain and Italy. His new album Britpop is due to be released this autumn.
Time Business News
6 days ago
- Health
- Time Business News
How To Handle A Toothache Until You See An Emergency Dentist
Toothaches can disrupt life. You feel discomfort and worry. Before you see a Dentist in Streamwood, Illinois, you need relief. Quick actions can help. First, rinse your mouth with warm salt water. This simple step reduces swelling and cleans the area. Next, gently floss around the sore tooth. This removes trapped food causing pain. For temporary relief, apply a cold compress to your cheek. This eases swelling and numbs discomfort. Additionally, over-the-counter pain relief provides temporary comfort. Follow the instructions carefully. Avoid very hot or cold foods that might increase pain. Refrain from chewing on the affected side. You should focus on soft foods like yogurt or applesauce. These choices minimize pressure on the sore tooth. These steps offer temporary relief. It is crucial to visit a dentist soon. The right care prevents further damage and ensures healing. Prioritize your health without delay. Toothaches happen for various reasons. Cavities, gum infections, and cracked teeth are common causes. Each cause requires specific treatment. Identifying the source helps in managing the pain until professional care is available. When pain strikes, act quickly. Each step provides comfort and can prevent the issue from worsening. Here is a quick checklist: Rinse with warm salt water. This reduces bacteria and soothes the inflamed area. Floss gently to remove food particles. Apply a cold compress to the cheek. This reduces swelling and numbs the area. Take over-the-counter pain medication. Follow dosage instructions carefully. Avoid high-temperature foods and drinks. These can increase sensitivity. Stick to soft foods to prevent further irritation. Foods to Eat Foods to Avoid Yogurt Ice Cream Applesauce Hard Candy Mashed Potatoes Hot Soup Not every toothache needs emergency care. However, certain symptoms demand immediate attention. If you have severe pain, swelling of the face, or a fever, you must visit a dentist. Persistent tooth pain can lead to serious health issues if not treated promptly. Do not hesitate to contact your dentist for guidance. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention offers valuable information on oral health conditions. Additionally, the National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research provides resources to help understand dental health issues. Before you visit the dentist, prepare by noting your symptoms. Describe the pain, its duration, and any triggers. This detail helps the dentist assess your condition quickly. Bringing a list of medications ensures safe and effective treatment. Toothaches demand prompt attention. Taking immediate steps can manage discomfort before seeing a dentist. Remember, these are temporary solutions. Professional dental care is essential for long-term health. Stay proactive in managing your oral health. Your comfort and well-being depend on timely action. TIME BUSINESS NEWS
Powys County Times
14-06-2025
- Entertainment
- Powys County Times
Pop star Robbie Williams named as new Fifa Music Ambassador
Pop star Robbie Williams has been named as the new Fifa Music Ambassador and has co-written the first official anthem of the international football governing body. The singer, best known for songs such as Rock DJ, Angels and Candy, has been appointed to the role to 'deepen fan connection' and 'elevate' the emotion of the game by bringing music and football together on the world stage. He has co-written a new song, Desire, which will be played before Fifa tournaments and matches worldwide to accompany players as they walk on to the pitch. The song will debut at the Club World Cup's opening match being held in Miami on Saturday, before being used in all upcoming tournaments including the 2026 World Cup. Williams said: 'Music and football bring people together like nothing else — each with their own universal language of connection, emotion, spirit and community. 'When those worlds come together, there's nothing like it — and I'm beyond honoured to be the Fifa Music Ambassador. 'Football and music have both been part of my life for as long as I can remember, so this means a lot to me on a personal level. Williams provided the theme song for the Fifa 2000 video game, It's Only Us, on the condition that his favourite team Port Vale were included in the game. The new anthem, which was co-written with Karl Brazil, Owen Parker and Erik Jan Grob, features the Italian singer Laura Pausini. The track will be accompanied by a new video which will be shown for the first time at Miami's Hard Rock Stadium. Williams added: 'I've grown up watching the walk-outs, the anthems, the drama – so writing and recording the official Fifa anthem is a real privilege. 'I wanted to create something that captures all of it — the passion, the nerves, the pride and the majesty of that feeling just before kick-off. 'Football and music have always meant the world to me, and bringing them together on this kind of stage gives me goosebumps. 'I know I'll get to perform this song at some of my favourite tournaments in the coming years, which fills me with excitement. It's a real honour that Laura Pausini accepted my invitation to feature on the song – she's an incredible artist with the perfect voice.' Pausini, 51, rose to fame after winning the 1993 newcomer artists' section of the Sanremo Music Festival, one of the biggest and longest running song contests in Italy, with her song, La Solitudine. The singer, who has released Italian and Spanish albums, won a Grammy in 2006 for Best Latin Pop Album and was also nominated for an Oscar in 2020 for best original song with Io si/Seen. She added: 'The song is amazing, really touching. It's a dream to be with him for the Fifa Club World Cup. Since I was a little girl growing up in Italy I remember the thrill and passion for football in my home country. 'To be able to perform live with Robbie Williams in front of passionate football fans and to be heard by music fans around the world will be truly amazing.' It comes as Williams completes the UK leg of his tour which will then continue with concerts in Ireland, Spain and Italy.
North Wales Chronicle
14-06-2025
- Entertainment
- North Wales Chronicle
Pop star Robbie Williams named as new Fifa Music Ambassador
The singer, best known for songs such as Rock DJ, Angels and Candy, has been appointed to the role to 'deepen fan connection' and 'elevate' the emotion of the game by bringing music and football together on the world stage. He has co-written a new song, Desire, which will be played before Fifa tournaments and matches worldwide to accompany players as they walk on to the pitch. The song will debut at the Club World Cup's opening match being held in Miami on Saturday, before being used in all upcoming tournaments including the 2026 World Cup. Williams said: 'Music and football bring people together like nothing else — each with their own universal language of connection, emotion, spirit and community. 'When those worlds come together, there's nothing like it — and I'm beyond honoured to be the Fifa Music Ambassador. 'Football and music have both been part of my life for as long as I can remember, so this means a lot to me on a personal level. Williams provided the theme song for the Fifa 2000 video game, It's Only Us, on the condition that his favourite team Port Vale were included in the game. The new anthem, which was co-written with Karl Brazil, Owen Parker and Erik Jan Grob, features the Italian singer Laura Pausini. The track will be accompanied by a new video which will be shown for the first time at Miami's Hard Rock Stadium. Williams added: 'I've grown up watching the walk-outs, the anthems, the drama – so writing and recording the official Fifa anthem is a real privilege. 'I wanted to create something that captures all of it — the passion, the nerves, the pride and the majesty of that feeling just before kick-off. 'Football and music have always meant the world to me, and bringing them together on this kind of stage gives me goosebumps. 'I know I'll get to perform this song at some of my favourite tournaments in the coming years, which fills me with excitement. It's a real honour that Laura Pausini accepted my invitation to feature on the song – she's an incredible artist with the perfect voice.' Pausini, 51, rose to fame after winning the 1993 newcomer artists' section of the Sanremo Music Festival, one of the biggest and longest running song contests in Italy, with her song, La Solitudine. The singer, who has released Italian and Spanish albums, won a Grammy in 2006 for Best Latin Pop Album and was also nominated for an Oscar in 2020 for best original song with Io si/Seen. She added: 'The song is amazing, really touching. It's a dream to be with him for the Fifa Club World Cup. Since I was a little girl growing up in Italy I remember the thrill and passion for football in my home country. 'To be able to perform live with Robbie Williams in front of passionate football fans and to be heard by music fans around the world will be truly amazing.' It comes as Williams completes the UK leg of his tour which will then continue with concerts in Ireland, Spain and Italy. His new album Britpop is due to be released this autumn.
