Diagnosed narcissist reveals how to tell for sure that you aren't one
Jacob Skidmore has shared with his 300,000 followers what it is like to live with narcissistic personality disorder.
A diagnosed narcissist with his own social media account has revealed the 'real reason' you can tell that you aren't one.
Jacob Skidmore has shared with his 300,000 followers what it is like to live with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD).
NPD is a mental health condition that gives an increased sense of self-importance, a deep need for admiration, and a lack of empathy for others.
Skidmore, who is known as The Nameless Narcissist online, says he didn't tell people about his diagnosis for years.
"Whenever I attempt to be vulnerable with my friends, it's like the shame catches the words in my throat and I psychically can't say it," he told LADBible.
In a video uploaded to his TikTok page, Jacob said: "A lot of people will be like, 'Oh, I have those thoughts too sometimes. Does that mean I'm a narcissist?' And the answer is probably no, and it's not because necessarily that, 'Oh, if somebody considers they're a narcissist, that means that they're not a narcissist'.
"I mean, obviously I've considered it, been considering it for a while, been diagnosed with it."
The 'real reason why you probably aren't a narcissist' he says is because these thoughts have to apply 'to literally everything in your life'.
"Not just 'Oh, man, I got a promotion at work, so I'm feeling a little grandiose and thinking a little narcissistically'," Jacob added.
"No, it's, 'Oh, I took in the groceries today better than anybody who's ever existed'."
Jacob said that narcissistic thoughts must be pervasive and ego-based, meaning there's no self-judgment involved.
True narcissists don't feel the need to hide their thoughts or feel guilty about them, as they believe their behaviour is justified, he says.
Jacob continued: "Like me, for example. I know that these thoughts are abnormal, but I don't have any cognitive dissonance regarding them. I'm not like, 'Oh, man, I can't believe I thought this narcissistic thought today'. No, I'm thinking, 'Everybody should think like this'."
He added: "A genuine narcissist thinks it's okay and justified to be a narcissist."
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The content creator, who is better known online as The Nameless Narcissist, previously shared a clip with his hundreds of thousands of followers explaining there are three main signs which can indicate you don't have NPD.
Jacob explained that he'd never met a narcissist who didn't 'do these things', but pointed out this is just his opinion.
First, he explained that feeling 'genuine' emotions is a sign someone isn't a narcissist, as he finds himself 'faking' his, saying: "Narcissists don't have those normal emotional reactions, we have to emulate them half the time."
Next is whether or not you believe every person on the planet has equal worth - as in his eyes, it's 'inconceivable that two people can have it inherently the same amount of worth.'
Jacob said: "For me, there's always gonna be a better person and a person below."
Lastly, if you love yourself, the diagnosed narcissist reckons you definitely haven't got NPD.
"A lot of people think narcissists love themselves," Jacob said of the common perception around NPD. "No, we think we're better than everybody else.
"We might love how we look. We might love our intelligence. But my internal monologue is a constant stream of 'You're so stupid. Why did you do that? You're better than all these other people. How could you be so stupid?'
'There is no self love. There is no self compassion there. It's just grandiosity."
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