I'm a 42-year-old divorced virgin – the real reason I've never had any sexual experiences with men despite being married
A 42-YEAR-OLD virgin has revealed the real reason why she's never had sex, despite being married.
Rhasha was married to a man for 10 months, but revealed that she never had any sexual experiences with her husband.
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She describes herself as a "late bloomer" and explained that her lack of confidence has stunted her in the bedroom.
"I wasn't attracted to guys till I was like in my mid-20s," she told TLC show Virgins, in a clip seen by the Daily Mail.
"I think it was just being overweight and not having confidence in myself."
Rhasha revealed that she has always struggled with her weight, and believed that men wouldn't be attracted to her because of her size.
Opening up about her marriage, she told a professional on the show that her ex-husband was an international student from South Korea.
She explained that they never met up, but spent four years texting each other.
"He was so sweet and made me laugh, so when he told me that he didn't want to go back to his home country, I didn't want him to either", she said.
She said that she was completely in love with the man, but revealed that he only ended up marrying her for a green card.
Rhasha is now determined to lose her virginity, but said that her ordeal with her former nupitals has put her off getting wed again.
"I have so much love to give and I'm such a nurturing person, but I don't know if I want to get married because I was before and that was a debacle", she said.
Moment virgin has sex on Virgin Island with surrogate partner
The new TLC show sees four adult virgins aim to finally have sex.
Alongside Rhasha, the reality series features Deanne, a 35 year old with high standards, Alex a 34 year old living in his mum and dad's loft, and Sonali, a 37 year old who has practically never dated.
Describing the show, TLC said it's a "wild, warm, and wonderfully awkward ride with four adults who have yet to experience sexual intercourse, as they navigate love, intimacy, and self-discovery in their 30s and 40s."
"After years of missed connections and dating horror stories, these late bloomers are done playing it safe," the synopsis continues.
"They're stepping outside their comfort zones and taking big swings to finally go all the way, emotionally and physically.
"From navigating awkward first dates to exploring a bondage class and working with an intimacy partner they're putting it all on the line in hopes of finally sealing the deal."
Virgins is set to air on TLC tomorrow, June 9.
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