Kathleen Funchion speaks out after ex partner jailed over coercive control
MEP Kathleen Funchion has spoken of her hope of making more people aware of coercive control after her former partner was jailed yesterday for offences under the Harassment and Harmful Communications Act.
Sean Tyrrell of Cypress Grove, Loughboy in Kilkenny received a four-month prison sentence, with a separate four-month prison term suspended for a period of two years, for offences under Section 4 of the Act which is also known as Coco's Law. The 39-year-old appeared before a sitting of Kilkenny Circuit Criminal Court yesterday.
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In an interview with KCLR Daily with Brian Redmond this afternoon Ms Funchion said that control was a very serious issue in her relationship with Mr Tyrrell.
'Right up until the end of the relationship, he had to have the control of the situation. And I think that's something that can happen very subtly. People don't see it happen. You don't wake up one day and realise that you're potentially in a controlling situation.
'It happens over time, and it kind of happens in a way that makes you doubt yourself and makes you wonder am I seeing this correctly? Am I picking this up correctly? It really makes you feel like you're actually going a bit crazy. And I think that that can be some of the reason that people don't see the situation that they're in.'
The Sinn Fein MEP said that Tyrrell accessed her phone and contacted 'very good lifelong friends of hers".
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'People that knew me long before I was ever in politics. I suppose my most trusted circle and he was alleging all sorts about their lives. Contacting their partners alleging they had been unfaithful.'
She stated that her former partner was always accusing her of infidelity.
'That (accusing her of being unfaithful) was a constant. He wanted me to do this lie detector test. That was in 2022. Honestly, I was considering doing it. And that is why I wanted to speak out. To say to other people that you can be in these situations. You don't see it creeping in and eventually you realise 'what am I doing here? This is not normal.'
'I was in two minds on whether to speak about this. Obviously for me this is three years going on. I do feel like I really want to try and reach out to other women potentially in this situation.
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"It is difficult when you are in the public eye and you talk about (things like) policy debate …but this is very personal and people sometimes question your motivation.
"It all came to a head in August 2022. Up to that point I was always holding out hope that things could be resolved.'
Ms Funchion described her experience as 'isolating' and said that she was lucky to have had support from her friends and family.
' I feel unbelievably grateful that my friends stood by me in that situation because that was a very difficult situation for them.'
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Victim impact statement
Meanwhile, in her victim impact statement in court yesterday Ms Funchion said that her former partner 'always had to control the narrative' and "did everything in his power to continue this until the very end".
'The impact that this has had on the rest of my life is that my life has become a very lonely and isolated place where I have issues trusting others. I do not allow people into my life, I question everyone's motivation that is around me and I can become incredibly paranoid. It is very difficult to have to say this aloud but it is the reality of my life now.
"It is something that will stay with me forever, the worry, the upset and at times to this day the disbelief of what has happened, will never leave.'
Ms Funchion said that "when it comes to trust, no matter what time has passed, you will always have the scar".
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The court heard that Tyrrell first got to know Funchion when he assisted on her Dáil election campaign in 2016. He later took up the seat she vacated in Kilkenny County Council taking up the local authority seat she vacated after she became a TD.
They entered a romantic relationship which lasted several years. Ms Funchion and Mr Tyrrell got engaged in December 2017 and Tyrrell began working in the constituency office of his partner.
WhatsApp messages
The court heard that Tyrrell insisted on having access to Funchion's phone and accessed her WhatsApp messages without her knowledge.
In August of 2022, after the couple had broken up, Tyrrell contacted a journalist outlining false information of domestic violence and financial abuse by a Sinn Féin politician.
He sent a screengrabs of this correspondence to Ms Funchion and threatened to provide the reporter with her name if she did not agree to a number of demands. The demands included taking a lie detector test and setting up a meeting with party leader Mary Lou McDonald.
Tyrrell also threatened that he would contact the spouses of a number of Ms Funchion's close friends to claim they had been unfaithful in their marriages if she did not comply with his demands.
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